Post # 1
So, this summer my whole family has moved to different parts of the country (my Mom, Step-Dad, and two much younger siblings to coastal North Carolina, My sister who is 20 to Charlotte, NC, my sister who is 22 to Napa Valley, CA and my Dad to Lafayette, LA). The sister that is just below me left today, and I am having a really hard time. While I am excited for all of them and the adventures that they are going on, I am feeling a little abandoned. I mean, I guess you imagine that you might not always live near your family, but it’s weird when you are still “home” and they have all moved away.
Luckily my Fiance has been so sweet, and when I get upset he just hugs me and reminds me that this will be our home, and we can always go visit.
Have any of you gone through anything similar? How do you handle being far away from your family (especially if you are close)?
Post # 3
While I was earning my undergraduate degree my family moved to Nashville, while I was still in Illinois. My whole extended family lives throughout the country, but mostly Minnesota and I felt very alone. At first I was pretty sad, but being in school and for you planning a wedding & working keep me really busy which helped a lot. Another bonus was getting to travel to where they were living and having tons of fun. Getting to see new places and do some of their favorite activities with them.The distance made me appreciate our together more and allowed me to become more independent.
Is your FI’s family close to you? This could be a great time to get to know them better or spend some more time with them since they are going to be a big part of your life.
Just don’t dwell on the fact that they are not near by for things, they are always a phone call away no matter what the situation. And with all of the internet video chat stuff you can still see them everyday.
Post # 4
@Miss Yoga Pants: Thanks for your story. I know it will be OK, I can just imagine that there will be some days worse than others. FI’s Mom and Dad are very close by, but we don’t see them all that often (long and complicated story). I am going to school full-time, too but most of my friends are about an hour away. Trying not to have such a pity party for myself…haha.
Post # 5
It’s ok to have a short pitty party, I had one. Somedays will be harder than others, there is no way around that, but it is how you deal with them that matters. It sounds like you have a really supportive Fiance who is there for you, which is wonderful. I really look to my SO for that sense of family and I think that will be a benefit to us in the future.
Also, don’t discount the power of “framily” or friends that become family. There may be other people that you see every day in class who are dealing with the same thing. Keep an eye out for them and try to be open to the idea of “framily”. Personally, I get the most inspiration and encouragement from my “framily” since they are now the ones who are there for the day to day happenings of life.