(Closed) fasting

posted 8 years ago in Jewish
  • poll: Are you fasting on your wedding day (until the end of the ceremony)?
    yes, both of us : (3 votes)
    9 %
    no : (26 votes)
    79 %
    yes, groom only : (1 votes)
    3 %
    yes, bride only : (3 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    311 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2008

    I did – I believe he ate at the tisch – but we had an 11:00 am ceremony so I wasn’t really fasting too long.

    Post # 4
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    1645 posts
    Bumble bee

    The tradition states that the wedding day is a personal Yom Kippur for each of you, so fasting is in order from dawn until after the ceremony. Then you break your fast together during your yichud. I would love to do this–it’s romantic sounding, of course. But the reality is that (sometimes, especially if your wedding is in the evening) that wedding days are long and you will be very busy. So–maybe you’ll be so busy you won’t even notice you haven’t eaten, but I don’t like the idea of passing out during the ceremony. Hope this helps!

    Post # 5
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    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I haven’t heard of this tradition. I don’t fast anyway, I get very severe migraines and hunger is a big trigger for me. I especially wouldn’t want to do that to myself on wedding day!

    Post # 6
    Bee
    2362 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2010 - New York Botanical Garden

    I had heard of this, but didn’t do it – neither of us did.  I felt that I would be more clearheaded and less cranky if I ate, and enjoying my wedding was more important to me than this tradition!

    Post # 8
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    893 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’m Jewish and have never heard of this. Also, the majority of the Jewish wedings I have attended are interfaith ones…perhaps that is why.

    Post # 9
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    178 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    First time I hear about this, my Rabbi just gave me a book about a traditional jweish wedding i’m gonna have to check that out. But I wouldn’t recomend fasting because you can get a headache or even pass out.

    Post # 11
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    18 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    My Fiance is, I’m not.  I love the meaning behind it but I just can’t risk it with my history of migraines and dizziness due to low blood sugar.  But, I think I will eat very plainly and sparsely so at least I won’t be gorging myself before he can!

    Post # 12
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    212 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’m assuming this is for more religious Jews since I don’t know anyone who has done this. But personally, with the way I get when I’m hungry… I would be SUPER bitchy to everyone around me the whole day, and then likely faint while walking down the aisle. Doesn’t sound ideal to me.

    Post # 13
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @ellabee: fasting on your wedding day is a wonderful way to remind you of the specialness of the day, comparing it to Yom Kippur. Getting ready for your wedding shouldn’t be like getting ready for prom. If you don’t physically feel up to fasting, find a way to make the day have a spiritual element for you (I have a friend who tried to talk less on that day, another who only surrounded herself with close female relatives).

    Post # 15
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    64 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I will be fasting, but only because I will be too nervous to eat anything! 🙂

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