Post # 1
I lost about 120lbs and although I’m a 12/14 street size now, I still have super fat arms. Not to mention I am a 40Dirty Delete and am rather top heavy/back fat. I have been lifting weights daily for about 2 years so it’s not going to get any better. I still have a thick figure with chubby cheeks to match, stand about 5’9 and am by no means petite even after significant weight loss.
I don’t like when I see brides that look like they’re covering up a flaw, because it makes it look more obvious. I am worried that having a dress with sleeves will do this. And a bolero on top of a dress may even been worse.
When I stand I try to keep my arms on my hips:
Because when my arms at my sides they flatten out like this:
Notice the loose lumpy skin:
Have any of you plus size gals had/seen looks to disguise fat arms without LOOKING like you’re trying to do so?
Post # 3
Congratulations on your weight loss. You should be so proud of yourself.
Sleeves can look great if they are loose enough so the material is not pulling or tight, and
they do not end right at the fattest part of our upper arm. Cap sleeves and short sleeves can be particularly unattractive. Elbow length is very flattering.
Check out this post. There are some good ideas:
Anyone else HATE their arms as much as me!? Which dress did you get?
Post # 4
your arms look fine!!!!! seriously they dont look bad! have confidence and you could SO ROCK your dress without sleeves or a shrug!!! my arms are bigger then yours and Im wearing a stapless dress 🙂 Its all about the confidence! Everyone else will think you look beautiful, YOU just have to think YOU look beautiful
Post # 5
I am in a similar boat. After I lost weight my arms still lacked the tone and tightness of people who never had a weight problem. They don’t look awful though (and neither do yours)..I’m going strapless. I have a summer wedding and straps/sleeves just drew attention to the area. If I were you I’d go without sleeves or a shrug. You can totally rock it 🙂
Post # 6
I guess it’s my own insecurities, but I feel like they look so out of place with the rest of my body. Defective, even. *laughs*
I would never be brave enough to go strapless, but I MIGHT be brave enough for a small cap sleeve. I found this picture a while ago, but I have no idea what make/style it is to track it down and try it on.
Perhaps something like this?
I suppose if I found a dress with straps it woudn’t be too difficult to have a tailor put the lace cap sleeves on a dress?
Post # 7
I would think sheer sleeves would be good. Any material too bulky will actually just add width to your arms. And you’d have to walk a thin line between having them so tight it draws attention to them, and having them too loose so that they make your arms appear larger than they are.
Post # 8
CONGRATULATIONS on your weight loss – you should be so proud of yourself!
I think you would look lovely in something with sheer sleeves. My gown had a removable long-sleeved part, and it was great because it gave me a lot of flexibility: I wore the sleeves for the ceremony and took them off for the reception.
Post # 9
Flutter sleeves? I like the inspiration you posted as well.
Post # 10
@evlpc: I love this pic!
i agree with the sleeves, besides how it looks (great or not) I would reccomend going with what you feel best in. if you are going to feel more confident and comfortable in the sleeves I would go with that.
Post # 11
Also, FWIW: wearing sleeves does not automatically equal “covering up a flaw” – think of Grace Kelly, Jacqueline Kennedy, Duchess Kate … lots of iconic, incredibly classy wedding gowns have sleeves. They also automatically make a dress unique these days, when 99.5% of the gowns out there are strapless. So don’t feel like if you get a gown with sleeves you are advertising that you’re hiding something. Whatever gown you get, I hope you love it on its own terms, but “give sleeves a chance!”
Post # 13
i am dealing with the exact same problem right now. I am one of those girls who NEVER wears short sleeves. I always have a cardigan on even in the summer. I think i am just going to wear my bolero so i don’t worry about how i look. I figure if i feel more confident in how i look it will shine though.
Post # 14
I hate my arms as well….even if everyone else says they’re okay, I know I would be uncomfy wearing a strapless/sleeveless dress in front of 100 people for 7 hours. When I went dress shopping I went looking for a dress with a bolero because I love the look of sleeveless dresses, but I wanted something fun that I could pair with it and hide my arms. I didn’t consider sleeves, because bolero’s are easier to find and you can try them on with the dress instead of having to use your imagination on how sleeves would look — plus most sleeves are cap sleeves which don’t do anything but accentuate bad arms.
This is what I came away with — the bolero came with the dress, but most stores carry numerous types of jackets…plus when it’s four hours into the party and you’re feeling more comfortable, if you decide to, you can take the jacket off.
Post # 15
@sweetpeony: I REALLY like your dress. Would it be considered a fit and flare? I never thought of this style because I’m thicker than most brides. What size are you, if I might ask? Feel free to PM 🙂
@kimberlyr22: I definitely like the short sleeve bolero look with your dress. I’m not brave enough to go sheer. I will try this look if I find a strapless dress that I like. I just don’t know if I’m brave enough for strapless!
Post # 16
I had the same problem but I didn’t want to wear a bolero or jacket as I didn’t want it to be obvious that I was trying to hide my hideous arms, so I found a dress with sleeves…
Post # 17
I am much bigger than you, but ended up making a shrug to go with my strapless dress. I think most people assumed it was part of the dress