Post # 1
- Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016
So I’m not posting this in Fitness because I’ve already scoured so many fitness threads and websites I could recite it all off the top of my head. I’m just so frustrated and upset I’m mostly just looking for some kind words. I’ve been trying to lose weight and tone up since January, and I wanted to do it slowly so I could sustain it long term instead of just dropping it for the wedding and gaining it all back again right away. I’m a hair above 5’4″ and I fluxuate between 135-137lbs. I hate it.
My goal is at least 10lbs lighter and I’m so upset because everyone makes it sound like 10 lbs is the easiest thing in the world to lose and that I’m some kind of moron. I drink tons of water, never soda or juices or any type of alcohol, avoid fried foods, chips and fast foods, watch my portions. I know my biggest weakness is grains and sugar(chocolate) and I’m trying very hard to be more mindful of that. I avoid tracking my calories super closely (though I always stay between 1800-2000 as I internally count in my head) as I battled anorexia all through college and went to outpatient therapy a couple years ago for six months, and every time I try to be more detailed with my diet I rapidly find myself slipping back into old ways. I participate in tae kwon do twice a week and try to use hand weights/kettle balls/calisthenics when I’m at home.
My smallest goal is to tone my stupid arms. I’ll be wearing a strapless dress for the wedding and I feel like this is the one time it’s appropriate for me to wear something like that and I want to feel good in it. But at this point I’m highly considering just getting a shawl and wearing it all night. I honestly thought I was getting a tiny bit of progress. But then Fiance showed me a photo we took last month during our vacation, and I just wanted to cry when I saw myself.
My arms look enormous and I’m just so frustrated (I’m also afraid my hunchback is getting worse). I don’t want to throw in the towel, but it all feels so futile. Can anyone just give me some support or positivity right now?
Post # 2
just fyi your arms are not fat, i know we all hve our insecurities but you should definitely know ur arms are not fat at all watsoever
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2015 - The Victorian
Okay, I don’t want to say “you’re insane” because I don’t want to come off mean, but your arms are NOT FAT. Seriously. Not even a little. If you’re REALLY self conscious, the thing that alwasys makes me feel better about my arms in pictures: a spray tan. But truly, you don’t need anything. You’re gorgeous and so are your arms!
Post # 4
Do the pushup challenge…pushups every night will absolutely help trim down your arms (which I don’t think are big by the way). But it doesn’t matter whether we all think your arms are fat…if you’re not happy, you’re not happy!
Post # 5
There ain’t nothing wrong with your arms girl.
Just focus on your posture on the wedding day. Pretend there is a string attached to the top of your head and it’s being pulled from directly above.
I have long, thin Olive Oyl arms, they don’t show tons of definition no matter what I do, I’m just not built like that. I’m more slight and less athletic. But they look fine, maybe kinda graceful or elegant. That’s how yours look to me in the pic you posted, feminine and delicate. NOT enormous!
Post # 6
1) They don’t look fat at all. 2) Keep in mind that in this photo, you are wearing a black dress that cuts close to your underarms… the pale skin of your arms is in stark contrast to your black dress. Your strapless wedding dress won’t provide this contrast so your arms will look longer and leaner! But really, you are fine as you are.
Post # 7
- Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery
Your arms are far from fat and You will look gorgeous on your wedding day.
If you are looking to tone that area more though, there are good ways to do so while continuing to eat healthfully (again, avoiding sugars, high-carbs, and “diet” or “light” foods–those chemicals don’t help!)
Since you’re working out at home, try:
traditional plank holds (30, 60, up to 90 seconds)
side plank raises
Check out Pinterest for SO MANY arm exercises, just to mix it up (I get bored easily with workouts).
But don’t stress out about it, and know your personal limits. You’ll look great.
Post # 8
You said you has anorexia before and honestly you aren’t seeing your body as it is.
Post # 9
My arms are fat also. Yours look fine to me but I know how it feels to be obsessed over fat arms. My only backup plan is to buy a sheer topper from BHLDN or somewhere similar depending on how self conscious I am feeling after all my dress fittings. It doesn’t matter what my weight is, I always feel like my arms are disproportionately HUGE.
Post # 10
first things first: your arms are NOT fat. not even a little.
but, if you are self conscious about them, start doing some light free weight excercises (~5 lb weights) three times/week. You can find some good weight routines all over the interwebs. the nice thing about arm workouts is that you start to see results relatively quickly and i think that once you start noticing some tone and definition you’ll feel better about your arms. but seriously, though, NOT fat!
Post # 11
I can sympathise. I too used to be too thin, and now I’m certainly not. I want to drop 20lbs, and it’s incredibly hard. I don’t consume enough calories day to day so I can’t cut any and I should actually probably increase. I’m going to get my lazy butt up and go for a run later though.
I don’t have any suggestions for you I’m afraid since I’ve no idea what I’m even doing myself, but I can tell you that you have a very lovely figure, and your arms don’t look fat at all. Don’t cover them up!
Post # 12
Okay, I actually have fat arms. Yours look tiny in that picture, but if you’re concerned, tell the photog beforehand so he/she can avoid highlighting your arms and find poses you think are more flattering.
Post # 13
You don’t have fat arms, silly girl! Seriously, I’m not just saying that to be nice. There is nothing for you to feel self-conscious about and I guarantee you that no one will look at you in your dress and see anything other than a beautiful woman.
If you want more tone (not that you need it, but I get that it might make you feel better), try upping the heaviness of the weights you’re using at home. When I started working out at home I used dinky 3 lbs weights and 8 lbs. Now I’m up to 10 lbs and 15 lbs. If you’re finding it too easy, try something heavier. I do a ton of YouTube workouts, just search for arm workouts and give them a try until you find something you like. For overall full-body workouts, including weights, Jillian Michaels is my girl. You can find 30 Day Shred and other videos of hers for free. Also, does the place where you do tae kwon do offer kickboxing classes? A lot of the karate schools around here do, and I got into the best shape of my life when I was doing kickboxing. We didn’t even have to lift weights, just all of that punching. pushups, and (evil) burpees really built up my arm muscles.
Post # 14
You are cray cray. I say that with kindness.
Post # 15
Honestly, you have very thin arms. If you want to tone them you need to do weight training. Other than the stomach the arms take the longest to tone (at least in my experience).
Like pp mentioned, make sure to stand up straight (especially for the wedding) you look longer and leaner when doing so. Another pp suggested spray tans. Couldn’t agree more. A tan makes you look more defined.