Post # 31
- Wedding: February 2016 - Church by the beach,
Sleeves or at least straps are always much more flattering in my opinion unless you have toned arms and shoulders. Honestly not trying to be mean but in general big flabby arms are a real distraction to a beautiful dress I don’t know where the idea that sleeves make you look fat came from but it is normally incorrect even if it did maybe your body look thinner in stappless but not your arms if anything they stand out much more. I don’t know how strapless became such a trend it isn’t very flattering for most.
Post # 32
I think the most flattering of the sleeves without adding so much fabric are the off the shoulder and either a short sleeve, cap sleeve, or to the elbow.
Post # 33
Yes, yes, yes! I too have no idea where this myth came from with wedding dresses b/c it doesn’t hold true for any other dress. I think it’s because salons didn’t/don’t have a lot of dresses with sleeves because strapless gowns are the trend. Thank God that’s changing. OP this is about do confidence. You want to be confident on your wedding day. If going sleeveless will mess with your confidence, then go with sleeves.
Post # 34
I considered getting a bolero of some sort for my strapless dress. I don’t like my arms and haven’t worn a sleeveless shirt in public in YEARS. I talked to my now DH about it, and he used the analogy of wearing a tshirt in the swimming pool… it’ll just draw more attention. I thought I’d be self conscious about them, and a couple of our photos made me cringe, but I didn’t even think about them during the day honestly. But I’m a full figured gal, my arms aren’t skinny, and hiding them wouldn’t have changed that. and especially because of the 90 degree heat for out outside wedding, really glad I just went bare armed.
That being said, you should only do what makes YOU feel comfortable and beautiful!! That’s what most important!!
Post # 35
- Wedding: October 2015 - Drury Lane Oakbrook
I’m also a size 20 with very large upper arms. I have lost some weight and now have some loose skin on my arms that looks like cellulite. Cap sleeves looked awful on me since they didn’t really cover much and just made my shoulders look wider.
I found that it really depends on the style of the dress. Some dresses with sleeves made me look older, while the more fittted styles looked better on me.
I posted a dress poll on the bee a few months ago between a strapless dress and a dress with sheer 3/4 sleeves and a few people made the “sleeves draw attention to your arms”, “you will have fat arms with or without sleeves” comments. I was actually fine with going strapless until I realized that for most of my ceremony I will be standing sideways wil my arm in full view during the vows and rings. It will be prominent in pictures and not how I want to remember my day. I also see so many posts from strapless brides about back fat and armpit fat (which women of every size have) and I don’t want to worry about that either. So I ordered a 3/4 sleeve bolero. Later on during the reception I have the option of taking it off.
Here is the dress strapless:
With the bolero:
Post # 36
Arm coverage. I have lost a significant amount of weight so I have flabby arms. I have tried both, and just standing around, your arms are generally ok. When you get to moving and holding boquets and hugging, etc., it starts to look weird. I say find sleeves or a shrug. Illusion sleeves are ok with lace applique. They actually hold in the area if done correctly. They must FIT though, not be too baggy or be too tight.
Post # 37
I don’t even have very large arms, just averagely roundish, and I’m most definitely going with a 3/4 sleeve bolero. I personally feel like unless someone has the good fortune to be a supermodel, the less flesh that’s being flashed on the big day, the classier they look. Heck, some of the world’s most beautiful brides have opted for sleeves (Grace Kelly, Princess Kate) and everyone remembers how stunning they looked. I think the ladies who have already showed their with-and-without pics side by side in this thread just proved how much nicer many gowns look with sleeves.
Post # 38
I just love 3/4 and long sleeves in general so I may be biased, but I think that most larger ladies look better with sleeves. In general I feel that strapless dresses can accentuate the worst in most of us unless you are super toned. I’m fairly small and my strapless dress is still giving me armpit fat. Fortunately right now sleeves are very fashionable.
Post # 39
White sparkly straps or cap sleeves attract attention to arms. Either go stapless or wear full length lace sleeves. If you can Google “say yes to the dress” episode when they talk about plus size girls and sleeveless dresses vs straps. You’ll see how much more flattering sleeveless dresses are, and how straps attract attention to shoulders. I was very impressed to see how beautiful a girl can be without straps. Wear a pain simple long veil (waist length our longer) to cover the shoulders if needed. You’ll be gorgeous!
Post # 40
i spent months freaking out about this! My dress was strapless because I loved it. now I know my arms are something that drive me crazy but no one else cares about. But I didn’t want them to be the thing I looked at in every single photo I saw.
i wore my dress and a simple veil with horsehair trim for the ceremony. I recommend horsehair – it can give you a thicker band and volume just where you feel you need the coverage!
then I had a short sleeved bolero made with extra dress fabric I had ordered – I think boleros can look terrible if they clash with the dress. I wore it for half the photos and the reception. i wore it because it made me feel more confident. That’s all that matters.
Weirdly, it wasn’t a huge leap for me – I often wear dresses and skirts with a cropped cardi. So people just know that’s my style 😀
Post # 41
I heard that 3/4 length sleeves are flattering to girls with larger arms because it shows off the smallest part of your arm. I am probably getting a dress with 3/4 length sleeves or full sleeves
Post # 43
I got fat arms…. and looking for a dress with 3/4 lace sleves which isn’t easy, especially on a budget…. like 90% of wedding dresses are sleeveless whyyyyyyyy??? :'(
Post # 44
My friend had sleeves added on her dress and if anything it was even more obvious about what she was self-conscious about. I would say skip it.