Post # 16
leading up to my wedding, my mum was bugging me about losing but with all the running around and planning I didn’t lose any. I realized one day though that I was tired of people trying to make me feel bad about myself and my size…..no one should have the right to do that! My mum has always had huge insecurities about her weight and she was just projecting those insecurities on me. I told her, politely, one day “the people who’ll be at the wedding are my friends and family, they already know I’m fat and love me anyway!”.
Somewhere in time it became mandatory that to be a bride, you had to look perfect. Perfectly smooth skin, perfectly straight white teeth, hair, nails, figure, dress, everything. So while yes, you want to look your best, it shouldn’t be anyone’s idea of perfect other than your own. To those who are giving you unsolicited opinions on your dress, I’d say, politely but firmly “thank you but I’ve already found the dress that I love.” Abd then change the subject.
Post # 17
I’m fat! I’m a size 24 in street clothes. I’ve struggled with weight all my life, and lost it, gained back more.. You know, the usual.
The dress you’ve decided on is GORGEOUS, and I have no doubt that you are also going to look gorgeous on your wedding day in that dress. The only one that matters is the one you are marrying. Will he/she (I didn’t notice a gender specific reference in the OP) love you in the dress? Will you feel amazing in it because you know it was the dress you truly wanted? Those are the only things that truly matter. The rest of the people can screw off! We all know that we will never please everybody when it comes to a wedding, so you might as well do what you want and be done with it.
Also, I tried on dresses with sleeves and they just made me look even more fat. What’s the sense in that??
Post # 18
That is a beautiful dress, but my advice is to stop telling people about it. Let them see for themselves how gorgeous you look in it on the big day. I loved my dress but decided early that I would only tell my mom and Future Mother-In-Law about it because I didn’t want to invite opinion (good or bad) from anyone. To anyone else, just say it’s going to be a surprise.
Post # 19
I LOVE that dress and you are going to look gorgeous in it. Don’t let people get you down. Seriously, just prove them all wrong with how awesome you are going to look (and feel) on your wedding day. Remember, your Fiance is marrying you, so you must be doing something right in the smoking hot department!
Post # 20
Thank you all for the support, it’s something I’ve been sorely missing here! I’ve been on a roll with my weight loss, losing 4 pounds since I’ve posted this!! I’m trying to take each day as it comes, focusing on making myself healthier and figuring out my happiness with the full support of my Fiance. Today I’m heading to the local gym to get the information on joining and a personal trainer. I guess I’ve been letting all the negativity kind of gang up on me after I moved here because my intention last year was to move in with my Fiance, get a part time job (at least) and focus on making myself healthier. Somewhere early on homesickness and depression kind of took over and ruined my motivation but I still but the blame for that squarely on my own shoulders but now I think it’s time I took back all my control.