(Closed) fat shaming brides

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 46
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81 posts
Worker bee

Not a bride myself, but I have been dress shopping with many of my close friends and relatives.  The BEST experience I can remember was with my SO’s little sister.  We went to a store that specialized in plus sized bridal gowns.  Every gown they had she could try on!  It was amazing… no worrying if the dress would fit, super consultants, and an overall wonderful experience.  We drove 5 hours and I would not hesitate to suggest it to any of my friends! 

Post # 47
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3383 posts
Sugar bee

You are beautiful. Don’t let anyone tell you differently! People like those girls are UGLY on the inside. Don’t let them ruin your experience, you deserve happiness! 

Post # 48
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1289 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

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schoening22:  I am so fucking sorry this happened to you. I am also not looking towards trying dresses out (I am plus size too) and if that happened to me, I would probably break down in tears.

I hope her wedding cake falls to the ground before she gets to cut it! Karma bitch!

Post # 49
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

What miserable, ugly women they must be inside to say such hateful things about another person. What blows my mind is that they should’ve been caught up in the joy of the bridal experience and instead decided that being cruel bitches was a better idea. That speaks volumes about what is important to this bride and her bridesmaids, and I feel sorry for the groom.

I’m sure you will look beautiful in whichever dress you choose. A few days ago I saw a thread where plus sized brides posted pics in their dresses. I can’t remember if it was on here or on WeddingWire, but you might want to look for it. I’d be willing to bet it would boost your confidence to see how other curvy women rocked their dresses. I looked at every single picture and I thought the brides all looked so amazing that it made me realize that it’s silly how much pressure we put on ourselves to be “perfect”. A wedding dress on a radiantly happy bride really is a beautiful sight.

Post # 50
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Helper bee

That upsets me! All I can say is “girl, you do you!” if a mermaid is your style, than rock the shit out of it! Don’t let a few mean girls ruin your experience and change the way you want to feel.  I have not seen a pic of the dresses you have tried on, but I am certain you look amazing and those girls are just a bunch of bitchy girls! 

Post # 51
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3053 posts
Sugar bee

I wonder if the brides Fiance knows he is marrying a total c**t.

Post # 52
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1746 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

wow who does that! I’m so sorry bee!

Post # 53
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Sugar Beekeeper

 i am absolutely in agreement with every single other pp , what assholes the are . I hate hate hate  women doing this to other women  as if it wasn’t hard enough already  !

And, not trying to  say I’m  right , or that I think other people should heed me if they don’t  want to or don’t agree, but I would   just like  to put  in  plea for us to boycott the use of   words like ho and  cow and  bitch – and  especailly cu*t  because these perpetrate   idea that femaleness  itself  can be accepted as  an insulting  thing, so to speak.  

Post # 54
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423 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Sounds to me these bitches are the ugly ones.  I’m so sorry they ruined what should be a fun day.  Know that those type of people would find a way to judge anyone.  I’m sure there were many dresses you looked wonderful in. 

Post # 55
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Buzzing bee

Wow, I’m so sorry this happened to you! 

I’m about a size 20 or so, and even though I love shopping, love clothes, and love fashion, I haven’t tried on any dresses yet because I’m scared….scared they won’t have my size, the consultants will ask me if I’m planning on losing weight (my fiancee likes me the way that I am and I eat very little / a very restricted due to some health issues that are not weight related). I didn’t even think about other brides making fun 🙁 

 

I know that for me, we’re going to go to a specialty bridal store that is ONLY plus size. Maybe there is something like that in your area?

Post # 56
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6331 posts
Bee Keeper

How mean of them! I’m sorry you had such a bad experience. 

Post # 57
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615 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

What horrible people.  Of course, it says so much about them and nothing about you.  I hope you have nothing but good dress shopping experiences in the future.

Post # 58
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

Sorry for your bad DB experience  caused by those girls. I’m just wondering since you heard them…several times…and since  it seems that your consultant apparently didn’t hear them; perhaps, if you had mentioned that they were mocking you, she would have said something to them. Sometimes, people have to reap what they sow to fully understand how mean they’ve been toward others. Not to excuse their bad behavior, but I just hope they were minors void of the true understanding of how not to treat others; especially strangers because someone else could have handled it totally different than you and it could have gotten very ugly very fast! Good for you for being the better person, and good luck on finding your dream dress!

Post # 59
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Wow. I’m so sorry that happened to you. I’m shocked and appaled by their actions. I also want to say I’m proud of you for knowing your worth and how very wrong they were. You came out of that experience with an important message to share with other women that we should lift/empower one another. A beautiful take-away to come out of a bad experience. Also congratulations on the new diet/feeling good 🙂 Keep on being the wonderful you! I wish you nothing but happy, fun and positive shopping experiences in the future. xo

Post # 60
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom

Wow…that is why I avoided the ‘salon experience’ when I bought my dress. 

If I were in that situation: forget complaining to the manager, I would have gone up to them myself! 

I’m sorry this happened to you Bee *hug*

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