(Closed) fat shaming brides

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 61
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Honey bee

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schoening22:  I would make sure to let the manager of the store know that went on. No one should have to he harassed like that, let alone in a place of business. FWIW, I actually prefer mermaids on plus size brides. 

I’m sorry you had to deal with a gaggle of mean girls. Hopefully they’ll all have 4 kids and gain 50 pounds with each one 

Post # 62
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Newbee

I am so sorry that happened to you! That is awful!!! What horrible behaviour… you’d think adults would know how not to act like schoolyard bullies

Post # 63
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Sugar bee

When people are mean like that it says more about them than you. I’m sorry your day was marred and have no doubt you will be a beautiful bride xx

Post # 64
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I don’t understand how the staff member you were with was turning a blind eye to that?

<DB rant>
Idk, overall David’s just really gives me the impression of being the Walmart of bridal stores. Got the bridesmaid dresses there but I find most of their actual wedding dresses just really aren’t flattering (they feel cheap but aren’t! Not a good combo). Plus the DB closest to me insisted I had to pull the dress on over my head instead of stepping in (?) which only works because none of the dresses have any real structure to them. They also insist on stripping naked in front of them so they can “help”. If they let me step in the dress I could get the whole thing on and only need their help for the back? Just a very weird and backwards store IMO…
</DB rant>

Definitely check out some smaller stores. The type with less than 5 employees. Much better atmosphere.

Post # 65
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: A restaurant on the beach

Only people with low self confidence put others down in an attempt to make themselves happy. I think its very telling that you, a larger bride, are happier and have more confidence then that smaller bride and her friends. Get back out there and find your perfect dress! 

Post # 66
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I am so sorry this happened to you! I just went dress shopping for the first time last week and I was dreading it, because I was so worried something like this would happen.  This is the one day you need to be lifted and told you are beautiful from everyone who walks by.  I’ve been fat bride bashed since I got engaged and it has been brought to my attention that some people apparently don’t think plus size brides deserve to wear anything short of a moo-moo. It blows my mind and in my experinece the fitted dresses looked so much better- so get out there and rock that mermaid! The next person to make a comment or stare- just look them directly in the eye and say “your ugly”. haha jk I know your suppose to be the better person or whatever but enough is enough.  I don’t think I wouldve been as good as you in that situation. so kudos! and call ahead to another store tell them what size you need for trying on samples and make your appt. from there… it should help and they can tell you what they have so you don’t feel like any less of the beautiful bride that your going to be! good luck!

Post # 67
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Sugar bee

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sarahtaylor:  I’m a size AU 8 / US 4 and I’ve even been asked if I’m planning on losing weight for the wedding. I just say I’m not planning on it, but I might due to stress!

Post # 68
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

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libbyboo22:  Reading your post brought back bad memories of being bullied in the first part of sixth grade. That is sick behavior and I’m sorry you went through that. Don’t you feel sorry for that bully brides FI?

Post # 70
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I had a similar thing happen to me, but it was an employee or the owner of the store. I’m not plus sized or anything either. She told me I had to lose weight and get a personal trainer. I couldn’t get out of that cesspit fast enough! 

Post # 71
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: Saint Domingue

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libbyboo22:  Some people never get out of high school.  I’m so sorry this happened.  Women are cruel to other women no matter their size (and I am not diminishing your experience so I hope you don’t take it as such.)

I got my gown at DB with a fantastic stylist and I was so excited and felt so beautiful!  I told my mom I wanted to walk around in it some to see myself from every angle I could.  I couldn’t get enough of how I looked in that dress!  So, I walked down an empty group of dressing rooms to take it all in, then back to my mom again.  

When I arrived back where my mom was she informed me the group of women next to us had some choice words to say about me amongst themselves.  Women don’t like confident, happy women.  We’re so awful to one another.  

Post # 72
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Worker bee

the reason these women were speaking so rudely about you is because they lack self confidence in themselves. the problem is not with you, you will make a beautiful bride, the problem is with them. I know that sounds cliche but it’s honestly true. 

Post # 73
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016 - Estates of Sunnybrook - McLean House

Never let that ruin your mood ๐Ÿ™‚ If you feel good in what you are wearing, that’s the most important part. Did you end up finding your dress??? ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 74
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016 - San Clemente Church, Italy

Sorry that happened Bee. In my experience, people who behave that way are miserable and insecure about themselves and their own lives. People in pain sometimes want to cause other people pain. Congrats on your progress and hope her life gets better one day.

Post # 75
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

It’s sad and hard to believe that in 2016 adults can behave like this.

 

Please remember- what they say about you, says more about them, than it does about you.

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