(Closed) Father and Stepfather drama about who will walk me down the aisle

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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1025 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Luckily my dad and stepdad are very civil and were both happy to “share”. I started walking with my dad, and my stepdad was waiting for us around the halfway point, and the 3 of us finished the remainder together. 

In your situation, I’d honestly just rescind the offer and walk alone, or your fiance walk with you. No time for that drama situation where grown men are behaving like children. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

What about your mom? Are you close to her? I would  choose anyone else or walk by yourself.

I don’t think you should play thier games or worry about making them happy as they are acting selfishly.

Post # 4
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5052 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

I suggest “you can either walk me down the aisle together, or I walk alone. Your choice.” If you don’t want to walk alone, maybe ask another close family member.

They are being childish and selfish. Call their bluff and don’t feed into their drama.

I’m sorry they are acting like children ☹️

Post # 8
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7800 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Stick to your guns! If you want to walk alone (or with fi) do it!! Bad parenting shouldnt stop you from making your own choices.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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disney91 :  well isn’t that nice for your stepdad to feel important enough to even ask for that role. Good on you though for letting a stepparent feel that way. I can’t offer any advice unfortunately because i’m on the other side of the coin, I don’t have a stepparent, I am one, and I just like to comment when  I see omeone showing any kind of appreciation for thier stepparent just to say thank you for being a person who can appreciate all that was done for you by your stepparent, thank you for existing. For the record I only really expect to be included in life events of my 2 youngest step kids (I have 5 by 3 different bio moms, 4 living with us) but I’ll walk down thier wedding aisles with thier bio-mom, idc, I’ll hold her damn hand if they ask me to, i’d just be so happy that they wanted to include me.

Post # 10
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Busy bee

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disney91 :  You have kind of already solved your own problem. Stand your ground, either they both walk you down the aisle or neither does.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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nykkee :  I’m with you! I’m a stepmom and don’t expect to be included on these when my step kids get married, but if they do ask, I’ll do whatever they ask me. I’ll just be happy they’ve noticed all I’ve done and how much I love them!

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