Father Daughter Dance- Does this happen to anyone else?

posted 3 years ago in Traditions
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I’m a crier like you and I was sure I was going to sob all the way through because my dad and I danced to our special song.

I didn’t. We sang to each other the whole time and it’s a wonderful memory that I cry over because it makes me so happy.

Just take it as it comes, find a song that means something to your relationship. It’s absolutely fine if you ugly cry, I’ve seen tons of brides do it.

Post # 3
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Busy bee

I am also very sensitive and music is such a trigger for me. My dad passed away a couple of years ago so I did the dance with my brother, who gave me away. I picked a sappy song and knew for sure that I would bawl through it, no matter how much I prepared myself for it. 

I didn’t cry a single tear. We talked and made jokes through the whole thing, keeping it really light-hearted and happy. It was a nice moment. You shouldn’t skip making this memory with your dad just because you’re afraid of crying. 

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

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anneanise :  oh girl I BAWLED during my father-daugther dance. Ugly cried through the second half of it. But it meant so much for us. Just have some tissues in your hand, you can discreetly talk with your dad to take some of the attention off the song, it’ll be beautiful. Congrats!

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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2017

Duplicate post!

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

I’m like the biggest cry baby ever, and a huge daddy’s girl. I start talking about my dad and I start crying lol. I thought I would be a sobbing mess, but honestly I held it together well. A few tears, but nothing like what I thought I would be. He was a sobbing mess during the dance lol but like a smiling sobby mess. 

I say still dance alone with your dad. It was such a highlight of my night, and honestly I enjoy the photos of my dad and I dancing more than my husband and I. Embrace the beautiful moment! I can’t imagine not having that moment with him, brings me to tears thinking about it. You’ll get amazing photos that truly captures your bond. If nothing else, I recommend doing a first look with him! 

And one more of the first look. Because my dad 😭😭

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I think it would be such a special memory even if you did end up crying! You could also practice dancing with your dad ahead of time so that the music isn’t such a big trigger on your wedding day.

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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

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loveydove :  Gosh, you guys are so adorable!!!

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anneanise :  OP, I thought I would have this issue (because I honestly teared up reading your post. UGH! I gotta learn to get a grip lol). I was SO worried about this when I was planning my first wedding. Both my dad and I are big criers. We did a normal slow-dance that switched into an awesome surprise choreographed dance haha. It was SO fun and the memories I made sneaking away with dad to the dance studio and at the church to get one more practice in are some of my favorites! People still talk about that dance haha. And bonus; we were so busy & excited thinking about the choreographed part that we didn’t get emotional during the slow part. I would do it again in a heartbeat if it didnt have a “recycled from previous wedding” feel lol. But I say just dance with your dad! Weddings are supposed to be emotional and I highly doubt anyone would talk crap about you getting emotional over it. Don’t skip this special part just because of a few (or a whole bunch) tears!

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2019

What if you do a happy upbeat song not a slow dance. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee

I’m so jealous! I know 100% my dad will not do a father daughter dance. He didn’t dance with my mum on their wedding day so I highly doubt he’ll dance with me on mine! 

 

If you think that there’s even the slightest chance that you would regret not having one and your father is willing to do it then I think you should do it! It will be the end of the night anyway so your make up no longer has to be perfect (and it probably won’t be as I fully expect to cry walking down the aisle!) 

 

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