Post # 16
I tend to agree with the PPs. I think it was unfair to ask him to choose a song and then veto his first, second AND third choices. With 20/20 hindsight you might not have offered him the chance to choose at all and simply made it a song you would like, but given the current situation, I agree that I’d give him a pass. The song and the dance are probably more important to him than they are to you, so give him his memory.
Post # 17
bradlje0: is there a song that you and your dad both love that reminds you of each other or your ultimate family vacation or something?
My suggestion is this….pick a song that maybe unites you two but doesn’t necessarily have anything to do with the occasion.
My friend went with the accoustic version of that Disney song “A dream is a wish your heart makes” because it reminded her of movie nights with her dad and how they often were Disney movies.
If it’s a fast song like….Ain’t No mountain high enough… then google “Ain’t no mountain high enough cover” someone somewhere who loves to sing may have redone your song in their own style. Have a song that already connects you and your dad connect you for another memory.
Post # 18
What baffles me is that you as a 30 year old attorney (as you mentioned) can’t contribute to your own wedding….I mean, you gave him the power to chose the song (well deserved as he is paying) so let him chose! I have only heard that song once and I rather listen to that than one of those stupid staged overchoreographed father daughter songs!
Post # 19
I understand where you’re coming from. I don’t like that song either. However, you did ask him to choose. The song clearly means a lot to him. To you, it’s cloying and cheesy, but to him it’s a statement of love. I’d let him have it.
Post # 20
I do think you will be glad that you let him choose a song that meant something to him even if you don’t like country music. I’ll be honest, my wedding was a long time ago and I don’t even remember what song my dad and I danced to! He died 15 years ago now and I’d listen to a whole day’s worth of awful songs I hated if it meant getting to spend that day with him. Not to be like OMG SOME DAY YOU WILL BE SORRY WHEN YOUR DAD IS DEAD, but you know. Sometimes in the long run that’s how you end up feeling.
Post # 21
Beyonce has a new “country song” out called “daddy lessons”. If you’re into pop/r&b I would go with that. Maybe a John Mayer song…holds the simplicity of acoustics against meaningful lyrics.
Post # 22
Agree with PPS. Just let him have his choice. Wedding planning is stressful and there’s enough decisions to make… let him take this one off your hands and make him and you mother who are paying happy. Win – win
Post # 23
Jijitattoo: I second this comment: my dad died when I was 8, and I would dance the bloody chicken dance in laederhozen on my wedding day with him if I could. My heart is honestly breaking for your dad right now, and for “future you” when he’s gone and you realize at really mattered. I promise, nobody regrets getting a little goofy with their dad.
Post # 24
Just think of all the things your dad has done for you in life and suck it up for 3 mins. 😉 And it’s probably a big moment for him, to chose and have a dance with you. Let him have it. He will be grateful, and it’s something he’ll always have with him 🙂
Post # 25
Buymymixtape: not that it’s really any of your business, but since you are “baffled,” here’s an explanation–my dad is an attorney too, and he offered to pay for the wedding. he’s not rich, but makes 2-3x as much as I do. I am covering the smaller personal expenses but he is paying for the overwheming majority. My parents are southern and pretty traditional. As I stated in my previous post, after reading everyone’s input, I have decided to just go with what he picked, despite the fact that me, my fiancee, my maid of honor (little sister), and two of my bridesmaids all find the song to be cringeworthy.
Post # 26
Tell him YOU will pick an appropriate song…or all the pictures of your father-daughter moment will have you gritting your teeth in trying to put up with that damn song that you can’t stand.