- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Hi all, I could use some help! Here’s the situation:
My parents divorced when I was 5. They had a very negative/vidictive relationship until I was an adult. Even with this volitility, both my Mother and my Father was always in my life….just never in the same room. Devistatingly, my father died suddenly four years ago, at 61, of a heart attack.
My Mother remarried when I was 18. My Stepdad is terriiffic, but he’s not my Dad. I want to ensure my Dad is appropriately highlighted that day. I’m planning on having my StepDad walk me down the aisle (he’d be too hurt if I didn’t), and I’m having my Mom read something during part of the ceremony. I’m having a remembrence candle lit at the ceremony in honor of those who can’t be there…especially my father.
BUT….I’d also like to agknowledge him at the reception. My dad has three surviving brothers – one of which is his identical twin. I’ve been struggling if it’s too sad to dance with the three of them, but I’m leaning toward doing it. It would be a nice way of agknowledging them and my father.
My questions are: Do you have any recommendations for the dance that won’t be too sad? My Dad and I shared a love of U2 and I even played a U2 song at his funeral. But, I can’t find any appropriate U2 songs for a father-daughter dance. I’ve also considered My Life by the Beatles. My cousins and I played it for my grandfather when he died and ever since it’s been a kind of family theme song played at every wedding. But, it might be too short to dance with three Uncles to that song. I’m open to other suggestions! I’d like it to be meaningful, but not too sad.
Thanks for reading!