- 2 months ago
- Wedding: September 2017
Just needing a place to vent! My fil is a judgemental bully! When we announced that we were getting married at a family gathering he just sat there with this cold look on his face. Finally he just asked what religion will the kids be raised as? That is all he had to say! I am Catholic and my husband is Lutheran. He is totally prejudiced against Catholics, oh and anyone who isn’t white as well! We decided to raise our daughter Catholic which I am sure pissed him off endlessly! When we had her baptized their response was that they will probably miss the ceremony because it’s at the same time as their church service. He also thought we were “rushing into the marriage”. Mind you we had been dating for over 2 years and were both 33 years old when we got married! We live in the South now but are from the Midwest. I recently went home to visit without my husband and I dropped her off at her grandparents house to stay there for a few days. My in laws are in their 70’s.. fil has problems with his feet going numb and problems with his vision so my husband told him he did NOT want him driving her anywhere. We were ok with his mom driving her as she is in much better health but his mom has I am sure been bullied by him for their entire marriage so she never stands up to him. They had a get together at my sil house and I met them there. Not only had he driven but when I got ther they were both drinking! I texted my husband who then FaceTimed me pretending he just wanted to say hi to everyone. When he saw the beer in my fil’s hand he told him that I would be driving dd back to their house. Then My mil told him that she was the designated driver… so my husband asked her if she had been drinking. She rolled her eyes and said I have just had wine! After they hung up my fil tried to convince me that he can handle his alcohol and is fine to drive her! I said NO! And guess who drove home? Hint… it wasn’t the designated wine drinking driver… I should have just said I was taking her back to my sisters! I totally regret not doing that but at least I didn’t let her drive her!
We also found out that he had been letting her go over to the neighbor girls house BY HERSELF! Not only do we not know these people at all but he doesn’t know them that well either! I told him that not it take seconds for an adult to expose themselves or grope a small child and for all we know they have loaded guns all over their house! We told him that if she wants to play with the neighbor girl they can play OUTSIDE in the yard. She does not need to be going in their house. When I went to pick her up I purposely got there a little early and found out she was next door. He must have seen me pull up and he ran over there to get her to make it seem like he’d been there. When he came home he said it was nice and cool in their house.. again making me believe he was in there with her. Later I asked dd if Grandpa had ever been in the house with them and she said no never! I could spit nails! I don’t care if their the grandparents if they want to see the most precious thing in the world to me they WILL follow OUR rules! I never want her to go over there without my husband again!
I could go on and on about many other incidences of his bullying…. I absolutely cannot stand him! How dare he think he can drink multiple beers and then drive with my kid in the car!? W?T?F????