(Closed) Father in Law Officiating Dilemma

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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2891 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think it is really sweet that you obviously care very much about this woman’s feelings. Not every Future Mother-In-Law is so lucky. You might try finding out why she objects. She may just have been expecting a traditional minister. Also I would check and see about the laws in your state/county. Fiance is an ordained minister with an M. Div but he has to register in that state before he can marry someone there. Most of the time that is quick and painless but sometimes it isn’t (encountered lately). Hopefully seven months would give them enough time to process that paperwork but who knows. If this continues to be an issue you might have FFIL do something else like a prayer or reading. At the end of the day though this is your wedding and you need to do what is right for the two of you.Good luck and keep us posted please!Smile

Post # 4
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4582 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It’s your wedding day. It’s really nice of you to consider your FMIL’s feelings, but ultimately, it’s your day and you should be married by whomever you feel most comfortable with.

Post # 6
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128 posts
Blushing bee

Maybe ask her why she doesn’t approve. If she genuinely wants a traditional minister or she is still upset about the divorice. I mean he’d be invited to the wedding regardless right? And his new wife? So why does it really matter if he is the officiant or not, it’ll save you money. I thought maybe she’s upset because he’d play a bigger part in the wedding than her, but you did invite her to participate in the wedding also.

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