Post # 1
Getting marrield this Saturday and totally excited. My FIs Dad is literally in his death bed, however. He has been fighting a terminal illness for years now, but last few months his health has rapidly declined. Yesterday they decided to give up the fight and he is now home hospice. Saw him last night, and the morphine doesn’t even begin to touch his pain. I am so sad and his family is so sad, and they have been so kind in reassuring us to have a good day. Anyway, I just needed to put this to words because it is so unreal and awful and I am just so sad during a time when I wish I could be happy.
Post # 3
I am so sorry you are going through this, my thoughts and prayers are with you and FI’s family.
Post # 5
I am SO sorry to hear this! Our Pastor Experienced the same thing with losing his mother the week of him & his wifes wedding (many moons ago)
Don’t lose hope… *HUGS*
Post # 6
I can definitely relate. My mother went with my dad down to Florida for my sister’s destination wedding in 09′ and went down a week early and my mother had a stroke. She was in the hospital for a couple of days, but she was unable to speak/incoherent and she passed away 2 days before my sister’s beach wedding in Key West. While she was in ICU my sister actually had a chaplain marry her and her fiance with us in the room. We knew my mom wouldn’t last much longer. It was super emotional. She passed the next day. And then my sister still had her wedding (vow renewal at that point) 2 days later. My mom would’ve wanted her to. Just like your father-in-law would want you to! I was very proud of my sister because she kept it together the whole time. Just be there for your fiance, because that’s all you can really do. I wouldn’t have been able to handle it without my boyfriend supporting me.
Post # 7
I’m so sorry. My step-dad (my only real dad in my life and my children’s life) passed away in hospice (hospital) on the 7th of this month after a very short battle with cancer (diagnosed Nov 26th). The medical team couldn’t (or wouldn’t) do any treatment since surgery was not an option (esphogeal/stomach cancer). It is shocking and sad and I wanted him to walk me down the aisle. It’s hard -end of life. I have never really been around palliative care and it’s excruciatingly hard. Up meds, horrible pain, medical issues…. so since just going through this, it feels like waves of sadness, neutral, deep deep sorrow, slight fun only when you forget for a bit… I’m so sorry for your Fiance. It’s incredibly hard losing a parent….just remember it is OK to cry. It is OK to feel happy. It is OK to have fun at your wedding. It will be a very busy week regardless but it’s OK to take a time out for yourself. It’s okay to feel angry that this is happening right before your wedding. Sending warm hugs .
Post # 8
@bluebird615: you have me teary-eyed at work :[ so sorry for your loss, but i’m glad she got to see your sister get married.
OP, all the best in this hard time – you’re going to have a wonderful wedding that will help lift everyone’s spirits.
Post # 9
I’m sorry you are dealing with this. I will keep you in my prayers.
Post # 10
I am so sorry, that yourself, your fi and family are dealing with this. You are all in my prayers.
Post # 11
@elliestan: Thank you! We even had the chaplain crying and he had just met us. A woman from a hospice came to talk to us and suggested it and she called him for us. He came right over. He was such a great guy. The hospital thought we were doing the ceremony the next day and we walked in the next day to a cake, flowers and wedding gifts. I’ve never met such kind people in my life. We kind of looked at eachother and didn’t want to be the one to tell them that they missed the ceremony. It was kind of funny. But they understood!
Post # 12
I am so sorry to hear. You and your FI’s family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Post # 14
I’m so so so so so sorry sweetie. I’m sending lots of positive thoughts to you, your Fiance and your families. What a hard time for you all. Cry when you need to. The wedding may be a nice opportunity for people to set that aside for a couple hours. Everyone needs a break from grieving every now and then. Your Father-In-Law would want you to have some fun and smiles. ((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))
Post # 15
I am so sorry. My mom volunteers for hospices to visit patients that dont have family. your father in law is very lucky to have you there.