Post # 1
I have a sticky relationship with my father in law. My husband and I have been together for 13 years, and have been happily married with our first baby on the way.
However, my father in law always causes fights and problems between us.
I don’t like my father in law due to several disrespectful things he has done, both towards me and my husband and despite trying for many years to build a mutually respectful relationship with him … he never meets half way.
Instead, he just talks to my husband and makes no effort with me.
This has been fine, considering we live overseas, and to be honest … not having him around has been a blessing for me.
But my husband loves his Dad, always sticks up for his father, despite agreeing some of his behavious has been disrespectful.
He wants me to make an effort now with his father again because I am pregnant. And he wants his father to visit us next year when the baby arrives.
I put my foot down and said NO, i have tried with no results, my sole focus now is my baby and my husband and I, not his father.
So now my husband and I are fighting and it’s causing a great distress in our relationship.
What to do?
Post # 3
@Happybee555: as someone who Hates her in laws,,,hmhmh my mother in law I want tos tart by saying there is no explaination needed. You dont like him that is that.
now….he is your husbands father. And now you are a Mommy…how would you feel of you son did mot let you come and see your grand child because his wife dislikes you? His dad is and will always be his dad. i suggest you suck it up for the sake of the man you Love. Dont let him get to you and remember it is only once a year.
Or else the only person getting hurt will be your husband. Keep yourlsef busy and
Post # 4
It is your new family that is the priority now, as it should be. However I agree with your Darling Husband that it would be good for your Father-In-Law to be able to spend time with his grandchild.
Post # 5
i can understand your husband wanting your Father-In-Law to visit to see his new grandchild. would it be possible to find a compromise, for example he stays in a hotel but can visit during the day
you and his father are both your husbands family, i’d honestly just stop making an effort BUT not try and prevent him coming/prevent Darling Husband havign a relationship with him