Post # 1
So guest list was made, dad approved it. I have since sent out invitations and have started to recieve RSVP’s. My father tells me the other day that some of my family have been RSVPing to him and also asking if they can invite other cousins (who were not on the guest list), dad says yes that’s fine. First off I am upset that people are RSVPing to my father and not me. Secondly between my father inviting every single family member and all of his friends….our guest list has increased by 50 people!!! He has offered to pay for extra tables and chairs to accomodate the extra people, however I have already purchased linens, decorations and such. How do I deal with this??
Post # 2
I suggest you call up these extras, explain that your Father was mistaken, that they cannot come to the wedding, and you apologize for the confusion.
You also need to have a come to Jesus talk with your Father. Tell him that anyone that calls him to RSVP, to direct them to you, and to not just say yes when someone asks if they can bring so and so. That you have a budget, a determined guest list, and a venue maximum that needs to be considedred so any additional invites is not possible.
Post # 3
I had this issue with my mom wanting to invite everyone and their brother, cousin, sister, etc. You need to sit down with your dad and tell him that it is not okay to invite people who are not on your guest list. You also need to tell him that if someone calls him to RSVP that he needs to give them your phone number and have them call you. I know you don’t want to hurt your dads feelings, but you have to be stern and stand your ground. This is your day!