- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Honestly it is what you and your fiance want. If in your heart you would rather be married in a hotel, “neutral” place then that is your progative. People will come to your wedding regardless of where it is because they care for you. I would talk to your fiance and see what he thinks. In the end it’s about you two.
I don’t think that having the wedding in the church would be uncomfortable for your guests, I have a wiccan friend who even had her wedding in a church for her family and they had a non-religious ceremony. Like pp said, people will come because they care about you. Now, on the other hand, I don’t think that you not having your wedding at the church should hurt your father’s chance of getting renewed as pastor, and that cannot be put on you!!!! You are going to have so much stress with this wedding, you shouldn’t also have guilt factored in.
At the end of the day you have to do what is best for you and the Fiance. It’s your day, you will have to look back and remember it. Good luck!
@kmwhatley: I’d love to say that it’s your wedding and you should do what you want, but I know that it’s more complex than that. Figure out where you want to pick your battles. While I gave up a lot of things that I wanted to be or not be in my wedding, one of the most important things to me was not getting married in a Catholic church. It sucks that your dad is guilting you and I always find it funny that parents expect their kids to want what they want but it doesn’t go both ways. If you have an opinion or desire of your own then they often perceive it as “heartbreaking” and as a “betrayal.”
Do what you feel is important to you, but also take into concideration that your Dad will be upset over this. Maybe reconsider the church wedding? I’m sure everyone would be just an comfortable there as at a hotel. I’m having a church ceremony and hotel reception!
It sounds sad, but do what you feel is right. Your Dad will get over it eventually.
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