(Closed) Father of the Bride Attire [Tux or no tux?]

posted 5 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 2
1023 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Not the same situation, but my dad is wearing a tux and are all the groomsmen. We had definitely discussed adding a vest to my dad’s outfit to make it “more casual.” Another good compromise is your dad wearing a regular tie with his tux, that will definitely casualize it.

Post # 3
1009 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: The Retreat at Bradley\'s Pond

It’s amazing how crazy parents are… my family and husband and whatnot all pulled the same crap. My dad didn’t want to be in the same suit as the guys, my husband DID want that because he doesn’t have a dad and MY dad is practically a dad for him now… I know terrible problem to have that they love each other. And my husband wanted my dad in the “groomsmen” photos and wanted to look semi cohesive. 

Clarify with your dad what he means by “Tux” because what I thought and what the store thought are different visions. 

Does your dad want to be in a black suit, with shiny lapels and a black bow-tie? That’s a tux. And don’t let him do a cumberbund cause that’s dated unless you’re going for the funny preppy look. Even still most go with vests. 

Does your dad want to be in a dark grey suit, with nice lapels and a classy tie… apparently that’s also a tux! 

Are your guys wearing certain ties/vests/boutinierres etc? Show us what they all want to wear. 

This is what we went with: 

Groom: navy tux with navy tie

Groomsmen: grey tux with hydrangea blue ties

Dad: grey tux and pink tie. 

Key to pulling off the mix and matched feel… pick a “tux” style or brand from Mens Warehouse where there’s multiple colors. So Armani may come in black, dark and light grey. So they look/fit the same. Then we picked out the same tie pattern just in different colors. So they looked nice all together- but you could see the color hierarchy in them.


Post # 5
1009 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: The Retreat at Bradley\'s Pond

I vote (if I’m allowed) no white on the guys- it doesn’t photograph well. I think for your groom to do a vest either matching the suit or the tie (grey or pink). If that’s the same as the groomsmen… then consider buying a tie (I had wanted to do this buy husband went roque on me)… as part of a gift for him as something he can wear again in the future. I wanted to do this and get the back embroidered but again hubby is crazy. I ended up buying another “rental tie” and did vinyl on the back with something sweet on it pressed in. 

Or just make your best man the same as the groomsmen with a separate flower/boutinierre whatever you’re doing. My dad got pink and all of the other guys got white. 

My mom and Mother-In-Law had a lot of “you gotta be kidding me” moments! I didn’t care if they wore blush (as my bridesmaids were) but I wanted my mom to pick first then my Mother-In-Law. I wanted everyone to be in matching color scheme so family photos looked nice and I’m happy with the final product. But lord the process to get there was crazy. My mom couldn’t and wouldn’t make up her mind. She wanted to be black tie formal. She practically refused to look at more casual/cocktail dresses. So everything was beaded like a homecoming dress in scandelous cuts. I mean my mom is hot but that day wasn’t the day for it. Then my Mother-In-Law complained that pink and navy were taken and kept pulling out ivory dresses and navy and scoffed at me when I said that was inappropriate. Eventually I got her to go in the purple/silver direction which looked nice together. We took photos with her brother – the uncle was also a groomsmen since again- father had passed away. Soo all of the immediate family photos look awesome and planned and tasteful. But getting there was insane. 

My bridesmaids however- I said get a petal chiffon floor length gown from Davids. Pick a style. They both went one weekend- swiped cards and never once complained. 

I wonder why that is! 🙂

Post # 7
2957 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

My dad wore a velour (spelling?) suit during the ceremony, and then AS SOON as it was over he went and changed into island casual. Not even kidding, I will attach a photo. I was like………………

In the end he was happy, and all of our friends thought he was a legend bc he gave no fucks! haha. I say let dad be dad.

This is a horrible picture of me, but you can see him in his Tommy Bahama glory. Panama hat, flip flops and all.


Post # 8
60 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

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brittbrat :  This should be a pretty easy one to decide with him. What time is the ceremony? If it’s in the early afternoon, you can nix a classic tuxedo right out – it’s not appropriate for the daytime. However, if it’s an evening wedding and the overall dress code is somewhat formal, then a true tuxedo would look great.

You can frame it up like this: if black tie is appropriate for the wedding, then maybe your Fiance should look into it also. If it’s not appropriate, then nobody should be in black tie, in which case your dad should just wear a nice suit. 

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