Post # 1
So my father was just diagnosis with stage 4 liver failure. My wedding is in oct 2013 he could possibly make it until then but at the same time pass away anytime. How am I suppose to process this happy planning time along with dealing with and important aspect of every girls wedding?
Post # 3
@azdahilas: I am so sorry for what you are going through and I can completely relate. My wedding is a month away my father was diagnosed with stage four brain cancer which inoperable. He has lost some mobality and has to use a walker when he has the strength to walk. My best advice is, talk to your father. Ask him if he wants you to bump it up. My father wanted me to keep the same date so I did. I look at this day, like a blessing I get to share with him. Remember keep your head up, pray and talk to your dad. My dad and I laugh all the time about my wedding – I say things like I’m getting fat we need to eat better. Try to enjoy the process, it’s hard and I understand where your coming from. I’ll pray for your dad tonight.
Post # 4
just giving hugs and hope u and ur dad communicate on what he wants to do.
Post # 5
I am so very sorry to hear about this. Everyone’s personal feelings on this matter are different, but I know I would bump up the wedding if I were in your place. My H’s dad was diagnosed with stage four cancer (pancreatic) and they gave him 1 week-6 months to live. He made it for 3 months. My BIL was engaged at the time and they cancelled all their big wedding planning and just had a small wedding with immediate family at a local venue. It was very nice and Iknow BIL was happy to have his dad there. I mean, if your dad isn’t there, how would you feel? Is it possible to do a destination wedding faster?
I am so sorry to hear you are going through this I know how difficult a time this is. Big hugs!
Post # 6
Thank you for your kind words…..moving the date up isn’t an option financial for us and part of it is my father is refusing treatment he wants to go on his own terms and I can respect that….I’m really just having a hard time wrapping my head around it hoping for the best but preparing for the worst……your thoughts and prayers touch me thank you 🙂 not having my father there I can deal with by memorializing him….my fiances mother died when he was a child. So we were already going to do a memorial or rememberence for her 🙂
Post # 7
I know exactly how you feel! FI’s mother passed away when I was pregnant with her only grandchild, which she was very excited about. We knew she wouldn’t make it to see her born but we tried to keep her spirits up and think positive so that our memories of her would be happy, and not of her in the hospital. FI’s father passed away when he was in high school, so e will definitely be doing a tribute to them.
Thinking of you in this difficult time, I hope your wedding is still everything you dreamed of. Maybe have a talk with him and ask him his opinions on some things for the wedding (could be something small and simple)? That way you’ll have some happy thoughts on your day when you’re living out some of his visions?