Post # 1
I never knew my father, only when I was little and all I could really remember he was a drunk bastard.
My uncle raised me, along with his father (my Grandpa and Grandma). However, all three of them passed away.. It is hard to continue wedding planning while father/daughter dances are running through my head.
I have no clue what to do, and I need help! Could I have perhaps my little brother (he is only 7, and my mom says he is more mature than the last time I saw him; but.. really I don’t know) give me away, or should I find a brother-like figure in my life and do it that way?
Thank you so much.
Post # 3
I think you should pick whoever you want – someone who made a real impression on your life and helped you grow into who you are. It doesn’t have to be a father/brother figure; it could be your mom, an aunt, a friend, etc. Or, heck, you can walk down the aisle alone if you want.
Post # 4
^^ agreed. do whatever you want. I had a friend who did a dance with each parent at her wedding. she wanted to dance with her mom so she did. its really up to you. same thing with the aisle thing. you have the liberty to do whatever you choose at your wedding, tradition be damned.
fyi, my father and i have an awful realtionship for about half my life (tho it is slowly getting better). he is invited to my wedding but not doing anything traditional-esque. it is my decision, just like this situation is yours.
Post # 5
It’s up to you. I would rather walk down alone than to just find someone for the sake of having a male figure to walk me down the aisle.
Post # 6
Do what ever you want- I am dancing with my 2 year old son at my wedding and I am having a close friend traveling from Afghanistan for my wedding walking me down the aisle.
Post # 7
I have no relationship with my father… I am walking down the aisle with my Mom, and not doing a father/daughter dance. I agonized over this decision, but he doesn’t deserve to hug me for three minutes during a dance, and he does not deserve the honor of walking with me.
Post # 8
You don’t have to have anyone give you away if you don’t want. If you do, what about your mom? A friend of mine was in a similar situation and they also did a mother-daughter dance.
Post # 9
If it were me and there weren’t an obvious choice I would just walk down the aisle alone and skip the dance. IMO those traditions only have meaning if you are doing them with someone you have a meaningful connection with. Doing it with someone random just seems weird.