(Closed) Father of the Bride vs. Step Father of the Bride (a little long)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: who would you have play the father figure on your wedding day (please read below first)
    Your Bio Father : (1 votes)
    5 %
    Your Step Father : (17 votes)
    77 %
    Both : (4 votes)
    18 %
    Neither : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    10 posts
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Hi Maurina,

    I’m really sorry you have to deal with this.

    I was all ready to click on the “both” option, but after reading your post in it’s entirety, I think you should ask your dad out for coffee and rehash the e-mail to him in person. I would also add that him ignoring it hurt you. I would see how he responds, and if he brushes it off or acts like he doesn’t care, then I think you should choose your step-father, who sounds like he’s been a wonderful father to you. Or, of course, if after confronting him you still feel like it should be your stepfather, then do what you feel in your heart is right.

    Wishing you all the best!




    Post # 5
    83 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I too was going to click both, until I read your post.  It is your wedding day and it sounds like you have a much closer relationship with your stepfather.  If you want your stepfather to do the traditional father things (f-d dance, walking down the aisle, etc) then that’s what you should choose.  I do think it would be a good idea to at least include your dad in a few smaller ways.  Maybe have him do a reading or a toast, and definitely get him a corsage.  Things like that.  At the end of the day though, you should be comfortable with the person whos going to be doing the major things with you/for you.  And it sounds like your step father is that person to you.

    Post # 8
    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    My Mom’s Dad walked out early on in her life. My Gma remarried but he died before my Mom got married. Before she got married she got back in touch with her father BUT  she walked down the aisle with one of her brothers AND did the father-daughter dance with her brother… IDK if that helps at all

    PS my Mom’s Dad was at the wedding.. and from what I can tell from comments and theri wedding video he could really care less that he didn’t walk her down the aisle

    Post # 9
    2067 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I have a friend who was in a very similar situation a year ago.  Her step-dad really is her father figure… But she still has somewhat of a relationship with her bio. dad…

    So, she had her bio dad walk her for the first half of the aisle (door of the sanctuary to the mid-way point of the aisle), where her step-dad stood waiting.  Her step-dad walked her from the mid-way point to the altar, also presenting her to her groom.  So, they were both involved.  However, her step-dad (her true father figure) had the “her mother and I” line and handed her to the groom.  

    She also did three f/d dances actually… One short, but “normal” one with her bio dad… One short but “normal” one with her grandpa… And one “normal” one and fun one with her step-dad — They slow danced, and then broke out into some fun goofy dances… So, she included both dads – But it was also clear where the deepest relationship was.

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