(Closed) Father vs. Stepfather

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
87 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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sarbear21:  Yikes, tough one. I don’t have this problem… and I don’t envy you. O.o I think having both would work, but it does sound a little awkward. What if you don’t have anyone walk you down the isle and just do 2 father-daughter dances, your dad first who hands you off to your setep dad? If your dad walks you down, you could have your step dad and your mom walk in together, then stand at the end of the isle waiting for you so that when your father walks you in everyone is at the front of the church to “give you away” together. And if the pastor says, “who presents this woman” your dad just says “we do” or “her family” or something? Maybe you should talk to your step dad about the problem and see what he says. He may be very understanding of the whole thing and feel fine being honored with his own father-daughter dance and won’t have a problem with not walking you down….

Post # 3
1306 posts
Bumble bee

If your father was absent your entire life and was merely a sperm donor (and you were close with stepdad), I would have stepdad.  If your father was involved as a father SHOULD be, I would choose bio father.

Your stepfather can be in the procession if you wish.  Is your mother in the picture?

Post # 5
9527 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

I think it’s up to YOU and not your dad. I think having both walk you down the aisle would be amazing.

Post # 6
256 posts
Helper bee

This is helping me a lot too since I have the exact same problem! 🙂

Post # 7
1799 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I hear you sister! I have chosen to have my Dad walk me down the isle on his own, but for both fathers to “Give me away”.  It seemed to make everyone happy, including my mum who was in a flap about me honoring my step father 🙂

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