(Closed) Father wants my younger sibling to go "sign" something?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I agree with you that it sounds fishy. I think your sibling should just be honest with your father and say that he wants to maintain a relationship with both parents and doesn’t want to get caught in between them.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Can your sibling just not be home to recieve the paper?

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Does your father have any other way to contact your mother? If no, I can sort of understand it, and all sibling is being asked to do is sign to say he delivered something. Just playing devil’s advocate here…

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

The problem with this situation is that the pieces are already in play, so to speak. As soon as he asked, he put your sibling in the position of having to choose between parents. There’s no way to take that back now that it’s done, if your father is so unreasonable. 

Even if your sibling isn’t home, he’ll probably take that as disobedience or what have you. You said your sibling is passive… but at the very least he/she should understand what I mentioned above. It’s up to sibling to decide which parent he/she will choose now. 

In your position I would advics my sibling to not be home and deal with the fallout of father’s anger. Sibling is not responsible for dad being unreasonable and while it may suck, it doesn’t sound like your dad is worth screwing your mom over. 

Sorry about this, OP. Sounds tough to deal with. 

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

I am not convinced it will be a terrible thing- she is just supposed to deliver a letter?  Can you call your dad and ask what is going on?  Because you are the one concerned with it?  That is what I would do-

ETA: I cannot really see how your sibling will be doing anything wrong…

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@mrsbruff2b:  Hold it up to the light and look in it!!

Oh, wait, is that creepy and unethical?

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@mrsbruff2b:  If your sibling justs reads whatever they sign first, it should be okay.  I was just thinking from a legal standpoint, I don’t know that there is something to worry about IF the sibling is just signing that they have the letter.  I am sorry you are going through this.  I am just trying to think rationally and I have experience with the courts.  I am sorry for your stress!  I hate this stuff (two divorced parents here too).

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@mrsbruff2b:  Ugh that sucks that he is putting them in the middle like that 🙁 Hopefully your dad didn’t just get your sibling to serve your mom something

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