Post # 1
Hi hive! So I have a dilema. I was raised by my step-dad, he’s been my dad since I was like 9 months old. I had no contact with my real dad until the last few years. In this time we’ve become close (probably not as close as I am with my step-dad but close none the less). So the question is: What to do about the father/daughter dance? I don’t want to hurt either of their feelings but if I have to choose 1, I would have to choose my Dad, who’s always been there… help?? 🙂
Post # 3
I think that this is a time to honor the person that raised you, rather than the person that is your blood relation. If you’re closer to your step dad, that is who I would dance with.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2010 - The Pierre Hotel
Would it be possible to have your step-dad "cut in" halfway through the dance, so that you’d be able to dance with both of them?
Post # 5
When my step sister got married she did as the above poster suggested and had her dad dance half a song and my dad dance half a song. It worked out.
Post # 6
2nd to Hobochic, I think raising you/being present for you for 20+ (I’m just guessing) years should be honored greatly. I would find some other way to honor your real dad by having him as a reader. Splitting your dance in half is also an option.
Post # 7
My cousin was raised by her step dad. She also has a relationship with her birth dad. She chose to have father daughter dances. She danced with both of them and chose different songs for each. I am pretty sure she danced with them back to back. I can’t remember who danced first her dad or step dad. We thought it was a great way to honor both men in her life.