- 8 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
So I was really unsure about where to put this because it’s about my father/daughter dance with my dad but it’s more than just picking a song, it’s an emotional issue, too. Anyways, this is kinda long so please bare with me, I need some help…
So the other day I was reading a post on here about father/daughter dances and picking one and why bees picked the ones they did for this or that sentimental reason and as I started looking up lyrics and listening to the songs, I started balling crying about me and my dad’s relationship and how we really don’t fit any of the sweet songs.
My dad is actually my step-dad who legally adopted me at age 8 when my mom remarried. However, he was best friends with my mom years before they married and was there all through her pregnancy and after I was born for everything…every birthday, every doctor’s appointment, school, you name it and he was just always around. He was more of a dad than my biological dad ever was (speaking of, bio dad was in and out from birth to 4 and I haven’t seen him since, whole other story). My current dad even signed my birth certificate because my real dad wasn’t there and refused (like i said, complicated and long story…basically, he was an ass) and he didn’t want me to go through life with “unknown” on my birth certificate.
They married and I became his daughter and then they had my sister. My relationship growing up with him post-marriage was really rough and we really don’t have one. He’s not the dad that you go to for problems or confide in and he was always really tough and hard on me with super high expectations. My parents don’t really have a great marriage and they’ve aways fought, talked about divorce. He can be a mean man at times but he really is a good person with a great heart. Another thing, he is a workaholic but has gotten better.
Cultures are completely different as well, he’s Persian and there’s always been that difference with raising us girls and expectations. We’re a lot better now that I’m grown and out of the house but we still don’t have that tight bond. I still have that need to please him and keep him happy and make him proud of me. We have fun as a family but my mom and my sister are the close ones. My dad, I talk to him about my car, school, and money.
Like I said, a good man with a rocky past as a family but he was always there and I love him. I just wish our relationship was different and I don’t know how to fix it or if it will just always be like this. I know he loves me.
Back to the song: so looking at songs, I realized we don’t really fit any of the typical songs and it just made me so sad. I don’t know what to dance to and I want it to be special. It’s our moment. Any ideas? Any bees go through anything similar? Advice? I’ll take anything!!
I did come across this song and it’s really pretty: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0ltAGuuru7Q
It’s Somewhere Over the Rainbow/ What a Wonderful World by Israel Kamakawiwole (the youtube video is just the Somewhere Over the Rainbow, I couldnt find the medly but you can find it on itunes) and I really think it’s beautiful and might be a good choice for us. Not traditional but then again, neither are we 🙂
What do yall think and sorry this is so long!! Thanks!!!