Post # 1
My fiancee keeps talking about her father daughter dance at our wedding and I really don’t want there to be a formal father/daughter dance as my father passed away a few years ago. I don’t want to do the “have so and so dance with you” bc I’m honestly quite tired of having a stand in. My brother has been great over the years stepping up (coming to father/daughter dances when I was in high school and he’s even walking me down the aisle) but this is really one day I just really don’t want an obvious reminder that my father isn’t with us that day. But I don’t know if it’s right to ask her not to do a formal father/daughter dance.
Post # 2
You don’t make yourself happy, by taking away someone else’s happiness. Your fiancee should have the dance she wants.You can use that time to go to the washroom.
You don’t have to do a dance. Just move straight from her dance into something else on the program.
Post # 3
I don’t think it hurts to ask though if it’s important to her she should get to have that moment. But maybe she would be OK with dancing with her dad to a special song (that they know is their song) while everyone is still on the dance floor. My fiance will be doing this with his mom since I am not close to my dad and therefore don’t want to do a dance with just him and everyone staring at us.