Post # 1
I am not planning on dancing with David the day of my wedding. My father (David) was pretty abusive growing up and we have zero relationship. I am letting him walk me down the isle for the sake of not arguing with my mom. My fiancé is extremely close with his parents. His mother and he obviously want a first dance. How should we go about this? I do not feel comfortable being that close to my father, but I will do it if it means my fiancé will get to dance with his mom. My fiancé would never ask me to dance with David, but I don’t want to take away that moment with his mom for him. Advice? Any short songs to dance to? Ideas on how to have my cake and eat it too?
Post # 2
You are overthinking. I did the father/daughter dance and my husband skipped the mother/son dance. It wasn’t a big deal. Have a mother/son dance, let them have thier moment and then move on with the rest and of the reception.
Post # 3
I think doing just the Mom+Son dance is fine. If there is someone else significant in your life you can dance with them (brother, uncle, cousin, best male friend), but otherwise, just take the few minutes to get off your feet and sip some champagne! Totally not something to stress over.
I’d let them pick out their own song and leave your dad totally out of it.
Post # 4
My father has passed, but of course my DH and his mom wanted to have their dance, which I absolutely supported. They had their dance and I didn’t have one, which was perfectly fine and no one thought anything of it.
Post # 5
As long as the DJ knows about it, they can smoothly transition you from the mother-son dance into something else. It’s a great time to do the anniversary dance, or something that keeps the reception moving along.
Post # 6
Let your fiance do the mother/son dance, but don’t do a father/daughter dance. It’s no big deal, no one will miss it. I agree with above that you should just make sure the DJ is aware.