Post # 1
Our DJ is recommending that I do my father/daughter dance as soon as we get to the reception area, then eat dinner, and then do the first dance for the bride and groom. Anyone else seen this done before? Will it look funky? I always thought the first dance of the night should be the “first dance” for the bride and groom.
The MOG can’t stand for long periods of time and so my Fiance won’t be dancing with his mom. Because it was just going to be a father/daughter dance the DJ wanted to push it up to the first event at the reception.
My wedding is in 4 days so please help! I need to get the order of events nailed down ASAP!!!
Post # 3
@cali_cat: No….you and your new husband are the hosts of the evening, it falls to you to “open” the dance floor….your DJ is failing to remember that little part.
Post # 4
I’ve heard that the dinner is interupted for dances. I guess it’s up to personal preference. It’s not for me becasue the whole point of the first dance is to “start the party” and between you and Fiance. Kinda defeate the puropse to have 1st dance with dad. MOG can sit during dances, I don’t think that is a problem, pull up a chair for her.
Post # 5
I have never been to a wedding where ANYONE dances before the bride and groom.
If I saw a bride dancing with her father before she danced with her husband, I’d be so confused – didn’t her dad “give her away,” doesn’t she have a wonderful new man in her life she’d rather dance with first?
Tell your DJ to keep the father daughter dance where it was, and simply skip the mother/son dance, which is what he should have reccomended in the first place.
Post # 6
That’s an odd thing for the DJ to suggest. The first dance isn’t just the first between you and your groom, it’s the first dance of the evening. At least that’s how I’ve always understood it.
At many weddings I’ve been to the first dance is done as soon as the couple enters the reception, followed by dinner. The father daughter dance is done either between the first dance and dinner or it waits until after dinner around the time toasts are done.
Post # 7
@Nona99: I guess his idea is that they will have the guests standing up to watch us do our first dance, and then that way it can seque immediately into general dancing since people will already be on their feet. If that is the goal, I could see why it would be odd to have things stop for a moment for another slow dance with my dad.
Post # 8
@Kit_Kath: Yeah, I had always thought that was the order of things as well – but then the DJ and the entertainment company he comes from said that they do things “better” since their way makes the reception flow easier. Whenever I’m confronted by someone saying they are the expert I second guess everything….which is why I had no idea if the father/daughter dance happening first would be ok!!!
Post # 10
@Sapphire-Dreamer: Lol thank you. I thought it sounded totally odd but I haven’t been to a wedding since I was 13 and couldn’t remember how the order of events should go!
Post # 11
No way. You and your new husband should dance first.
Post # 12
I thnk you may have miss heard your DJ. I’ve never heard of a father/daughter dance kickng off the reception. That’s strange. Bride and Grooms do this, 100% of the time at weddings that I photograph. You might want to double check with your DJ. That’s kinda odd. Followed by the B&G should be father/daughter, then mother/son.
This is how my weddings typically go