(Closed) Father/daughter dance with ESTRANGED father

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Wow, you’re very forgiving. Good luck finding a song!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Depending on how long he has been absent from your life a good song might be Luther Van Dross dance with my father. This is a song about longing to have another chance, some people may regard this song as a grieving song and yes I believe he wrote it after his father passed away but it never mentions death so it could lend itself to an absent dad

 

This is one of my favourite songs and it never fails to make me cry 🙂

Post # 5
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

If this were me I’d worry about putting too much pressure on myself and a ‘new’, fragile relationship.  This will undoubtedly tear at your heartstrings on the day and I wonder if a less formal opportunity to dance with him on the night might be less…stressful?  You are probably a lot stronger than me though (especially given that you have forgiven him)  so that might not even be an issue for you!  Good luck with whatever you decide. 

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I have just listened to it again and the last verse doesn’t fit as he sings about his mum wanting to dance with his dad again, well I’m if the rest of the song fits u could somehow remix it so the last verse doesn’t come on? 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

Is the dance something you are doing because it will make you happy on the big day or because you feel bad that he isn’t walking you down the aisle?  If you are looking forward to having this dance then I think that’s great:) If it is something that you think will be uncomfortable given your relationship I just wanted to tell you that I’ve been to a wedding where the bride didn’t have a good relationship with her father and danced with her cousin who also walked her down the aisle and it was so sweet and touching. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I honestly don’t know what any song or situation that would make this situation less awkward. The only suggestion I have is perhaps meeting with him and trying to build a relationship of some kind so you get a little used to him and don’t feel wierd dancing in such a public way with him.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think that this dance is important to her. 

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