- 5 years ago
My dad passed away 2 years ago and I got engaged a year later. I was going to have my granddad fill in for my dad, but last March, he passed away too. Walking down the isle has never been a huge concern for me – my mom is going to be walking me down and is thrilled about it. But my granddad is the first person I ever danced with, I used to two step with him when I was young and then him and my grandmother taught me to square dance. My dad and I also used to do Karaoke so music was very important to my relationship with both of them.
I had not planned on doing a Father Daughter dance at all, but then my Fiance expressed that it was very important to him to do a Mother-Son dance. I would never take a moment like that away from him, only I’m unsure about what I should be doing during the wedding at that time. I don’t want to dance with my mom, it just doesn’t feel right in my heart for her to fill that void, despite her walking me down the aisle, we just don’t have the musical connection I did with these two important men in my life.
I was going to just sit out, but his mom recently got married and they danced at her wedding and I ended up having to leave the room because I fell apart knowing I would not get that moment of my own and it just made me miss them both a lot. I want my wedding day to be happy – althought i know there will be many emotions – and I don’t want my fiance to feel bad about his dance with his mom, nor do i want him to have to comfort me right after it. I also wish I could find a way to memorialize my dad/granddad in song without saddening everyone. I’m just very lost and confused about this whole thing, the simplest solution would be to have neither dance, but I want my fiance to have this moment.