Post # 1
So, we picked out FH and his groomsmen’s attire tonight. They are renting gray Vera Wang tuxes from Men’s Warehouse. Looks like a regular suit to me. Are the fathers of the bride and groom supposed to match? My mother assumed my dad would wear a matching tux too, but I said, nah just wear a nice suit (cause I’m thinking, hey just save the extra money). She got kind of taken aback by it. Is that what they are supposed to wear? Would it look weird if he didn’t wear one? I know it’s technically a tux but to me it just looks like a gray suit that happens to have a hankerchief in the front pocket. This isn’t exactly a black tie wedding. Its in a function hall at a restaurant with an outside ceremony.
Post # 2
I had the same reaction as you. I didn’t know it was traditional for the fathers to wear matching suits/tuxes (at least in my area). Our fathers wore matching tuxes without vests and different ties. The groomsman had purple ties, and our dads wore grey and black striped ties to set them apart. I liked how it all came together.
Post # 3
Every wedding that I’ve been close to, the couple asked if the dads wanted to get tuxes with the groomsmen. Some of the dads did, some didn’t. They were never told they had to, and were never told they couldn’t. It was offered and up to them whether to go along or not.
For weddings where I didn’t know the parents or hear about planning details, I can’t for the life of me remember whether the dads matched the groomsmen or not. I just don’t pay that much attention to what other people wear.
Post # 4
The fathers are not part of the wedding party, but should dress in such a manner that they will coordinate for the wedding photos. They should not dress more formally than the groom, so in this case a tuxedo or suit would be fine.
Post # 5
We got the same tuxes for our wedding! They are beautiful. I put enough tuxes on hold for the fathers, but for a suggestion. All the fathers decided to wear the Vera Wang. the groom, groomsmen & fathers are all wearing different vests, ties and pocket silks to differentiate them.