(Closed) Fathers Horror – Wife places baby for adoption with family without telling him

posted 5 years ago in Legal
  • poll: What do you think should happen in this case
    Return the child to her biological father : (16 votes)
    62 %
    Keep the child with the "adoptive" parents : (3 votes)
    12 %
    I like cats : (7 votes)
    27 %
  • Post # 3
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @bklynbridetobe:  Just a heads up, I was told, and figure I will pass the knowledge, apparently the ‘daily mail’ is equivelant to our tabloids (only normal people not celeberties)

    Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    wtf???!!!

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    WOW.. first of all what kind of adoption agency doesn’t require a father to terminate his rights before giving a child to another family? And what kind of mother would give up her baby for “fear of being a single mother”? How can she sleep at night knowing she ripped this baby away from her father for her own selfish reason. I am happy the judge ordered the baby back to him but that family needs to let her go be with her daddy. We have so many black men who refuse to be a father and this man is fighting for his daughter! CRAZY!


    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    @bklynbridetobe:  Yes I agree they are kidnappers. They have some serious nerve raisning money to keep this baby. There are so many issues with this story!

    Post # 8
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @bklynbridetobe:  I was just passing a friendly warning… I got burned for it the other day 🙂 meant no offence 🙂

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I agree with the fact that the mother is an evil B, but the adopted parents had no idea.  My little sister in law is adopted, because she was taken away from her mother by the state. My Future Mother-In-Law has had her from almost birth. I can’t imagine what it would feel like if FSIL’s birth father came back into the picture and said “Hey I want her back”. (luckily though, in our case, he can’t, because he failed to show up to any of her 100 adoption hearings.)

    I feel like the father in this situation should be allowed to have a relationship with his daughter, but I don’t think that the baby should be taken away from the adopted family. 1, that would be too damaging on the kid’s psyche, and 2, that, by all reasons, is their baby. They have done nothing wrong.

     

     

     

    ETA: SEE POST # 17.

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @brandybelle:  “The judge said in his ruling, however, that the couple knew that Achane had never been consulted and ‘acknowledged this risk but decided they wanted to proceed forward with the adoptive placement anyway.'” – ABC News

    So you’re saying that because the father was never contacted while he was away for military reasons that he shouldn’t be able to have custody of her? He never consented. He’s heartbroken. She’s not even two.

    Post # 11
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    @brandybelle:  the baby is 15 months old.. she wont even remember the adoptive parents at this point. How would you feel growing up in a home where you were the only person your color knowing that your father fought every day for you and your “parents” refused to give you back. 

    Post # 12
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    How awful!  I hope he gets his daughter back.

    @brandybelle:  “but the adopted parents had no idea”

    Not according to the news articles.  They apparently knew that the father had not consented and that he might contest if he ever found out what happened yet they adopted the little girl anyway.

    Post # 14
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @brandybelle:  “that, by all reasons, is their baby”

    Except it isn’t.  

    I understand being devastated to have the child taken away from them, but the child’s place is with her father.

    Post # 15
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Daily mail once ran a story about a woman who said ufos turned her baby into chips.  Just sayin’… Pinch of salt?  More like a whole spoon of it. 

    Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I agree, the father should be given custody.  However, I don’t want to judge the mother hrshly without knowing all the details of their relationship.   She wanted to abort the pregnancy or give the baby up for adoption from the very begininng, according to the husband, but he said no. Something about that makes me uncomfortable and, while I don’t agree with exactly the way she went about it, who knows if something else, abuse maybe or otherwise, was going on that she didn’t feel she had other options. 

    Also, as the oldest of my siblings, all who were adopted, if you don’t have both birth parents’ consent, you know there’s a risk of a custody battle and these parents knew that.

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