Fathers not allowed in room for birth in NYC

posted 4 days ago in Pregnancy
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Oh man that is heartbreaking. I see why they are doing it but would still be so tough for those affected. 

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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

 I really disagree with this decision. The WHO recommends that all delivering women be allowed a companion, and there are plenty of cases where a pregnant woman needs an advocate. We don’t diminish the power of the most vulnerable patients, even with an epidemic. I understand why they feel this is necessary, but there must be another way. 

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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

Yeah it’s really terrible and seems much more about optics than actual clinical utility. If the husbands have it, the wives are likely to have it too, so they aren’t really preventing passage. I’m due next week and am now scrambling to find a new hospital and ob. To make matters worse, I am a doctor at this hospital, actively working at 39 weeks to treat people with the virus, and my own hospital can’t extend me the professional courtesy of allowing my husband to be with me. 

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think this is a grave error. I don’t know exactly what the right answer is, but it CAN not be putting countless women at risk for horrible trauma and unprecedented levels of PPD. I’m only 13 weeks so hoping very much that this clears up atleast some before I deliver, but this just terrifies me to my core.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

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ohdarling :  Holy crap! That is scary, I’m due in 2 weeks in CA, they better not implement this here! He isn’t allowed at my OB appts anymore but I don’t mind that

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Newbee
  • Wedding: May 2020

This is horrible and WRONG!!! Women who are delivering must be allowed to have husbands in the room with them. This is getting out of control with the social distancing. Like someone said in an earlier post that if the husband has it then likely the wife would already have it or have been exposed to it. I feel so bad for these women left alone just with the doctor to deliver their babies. 

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

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bluebell83 :  Bee I’m so sorry!!! After you sacrifice to much for the good of others, you’re asked to sacrifice more in your own time of need.

I don’t particularly see how keeping husbands away from their wives as they give birth will help anyone. The negatives seem to vastly outstrip the danger of possible transmission of the virus.

I’m not pregnant, but Darling Husband and I were planning to start trying in 2 months. We both decided to wait until the worst of the crisis had passed. Both for the possibility of not getting care when needing it (e.g if I was high risk with HG or something similar), or on opposite end, of taking a bed from someone who needed it more than me. 

Hearing what pregnancy looks like right now and what you have to sacrifice, I genuinely think of all pregnant women scared in this crisis every day and hope you’re all able to deliver your baby safely. 

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Blushing bee

I have been advised this too, but am only 28 weeks. Hoping it will change but wow..not how I thought I would be fiving birth to my first.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

Oh my gosh…this is so so so wrong. I really hope they lift this soon! My heart goes out to all those affected by this right now. I can’t imagine how scary it would be to deliver all alone!

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

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milaknot :  what state are you in?

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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

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sbl99 :  Thank you <3 There have been a lot of times I’ve cried during this pandemic, as we run out of resources and have so many patients that are gravely ill, but this is the first time I’ve cried about myself.

Laboring in isolation is not recommended by the WHO in regards to covid and in general can have grave consequences for the mother and baby, both physically and emotionally. Ob/gyn’s in other states need to advocate now for their patients to have a birthing partner, and realize that these panic-driven rules really will do more harm than good.

I hope your conception and pregnancy goes much smoother and that soon we all won’t have to worry about this virus.

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

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bluebell83 :  I am so sorry. That’s horrible. 

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

My heart breaks for all of you who are pregnant and facing the threat of this possibility. 

Post # 15
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Busy bee

This is not all of NYC, it’s just the greater New York Presbyterian consortium. My husband’s hospital has an OB service and as of this weekend, this was not a policy at his hospital. 

I know this seems awful, but this is a really unique situation that’s hard to wholly grasp if you’re not up to date on what is going on here. NYP hospitals were among those the original COVID-19 patients were directed to as things started to escalate. All hospitals in the city have them now, but due to the early traffic, Columbia in particular is in extremely poor shape. Doctors there have literally been wearing trash bags in the place of gowns because they are so low on PPE, per pictures from friends who work there. They are reusing masks. Hell, my husband’s hospital is better stocked because they have fewer COVID-19 patients and are not at capacity and he had to borrow a mask from someone else to do a procedure last night because there aren’t any more for him to use. This is anecdotal, so take it with many grains of salt, but when I complained about why my husband’s hospital wasn’t testing medical staff showing symptoms (they don’t have enough tests) he told me I should be glad he doesn’t work at NYP because they had to recall some staff they sent home who weren’t clearly positive because their staffing shortages are severe. This is a letter recently distributed by the chief of surgery there: https://mobile.twitter.com/charlesornstein/status/1241534890249785353/photo/1

There are numerous hospitals in the city, my husband’s included, that still have ventilators and ICU beds. There are others that don’t. He expects his hospital to be in the latter group by the end of the week. Watch a few of Cuomo’s press conferences to get a better idea of what we’re up against here. 

This is awful and I can’t even imagine what laboring alone would feel like. It must be among the worst things possible any expecting mother could experience. The very idea I find completely chilling. But the these hospitals are in dire straits right now and minimizing visitors is presumably absolutely essential or they wouldn’t be doing it. We currently have 13,000 cases in NYC alone and presumably, from what I know, there are many healthcare professionals still at work who are sick. This is a crappy time to be doing anything, including giving birth. But walking into any hospital in NYC right now is downright dangerous. This isn’t panic or taking social distancing to the extreme. This is an overburdened hospital group without equipment to protect their own physicians, let alone a partner.

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