- 2 months ago
- Wedding: March 2018
Homebirth is an option if you’re low risk. I know in some cases this is a “luxury” since it isn’t typically covered by insurance.
I had a hospital birth with our first child but am in my third trimester with our second and opting for a homebirth this time around. Of course it’s extremely important to have a midwife who is prepared and experienced. There are so many downfalls to not having your partner for support during labor and delivery but I also would be concerned about the virus being airborne around a newborn’s immune system.
I absolutely am not intending to sound dismissive here as I know there are great stressors surrounding any type of pregnancy, labor, delivery and postpartum recovery in this COVID-19 mess.
I feel like more scared women are going to attempt a home birth than reasonably should because of these policies and that’s also dangerous.
My heart absolutely breaks for everyone involved. When ER doctors themselves are calling this a bad policy, we should listen.
Obvi having the father there is preferable but it’s still far safer in a hospital without the father than at home with him and without emergency treatment if needed. It’s not like we haven’t been giving birth without the father present for hundreds if not thousands of years if it really comes to that. It’s not ideal but I hate to think of what could happen if pregnant women start fearing going to the hospital during this time, it’s actually terrible what could happen.
Would just like to add to my previous comment and stress how extremely important it is to have a skilled midwife if you choose the homebirth route. I also worry that women will give birth at home out of desperation or fear and yes, that is dangerous.
Our midwife (who we hired and planned for before the covid outbreak) has her doctorate degree, has been a midwife for over 30 years, and delivered more than 2,000 babies at home. Of course things can happen and it’s imperative to have a midwife who knows what signs to be aware of and how to handle emergencies. Anyway, she has more than 4x the experience that our previous OB had. It is possible to have a safe homebirth if you do your research and have the proper team and support.
This is absolutely terrifying, and my heart goes out to all the expecting mothers in new york who will be affected by this. I’m in nyc too and had been ttc until a few weeks ago. We decided to wait because the thought of being pregnant during this crisis terrified me–the unknown effects of covid in early pregnancy, the risk of needing to go to a hospital during a pandemic, the added stress–and while waiting is hard, with each passing day and headline I feel more confident we are making the right choice for us.
It will never cease to surprise me that people who are not medical experts will never stop second guessing the attempts by medical professionals in medical emergencies.
Without adequate tests available for the fathers you CANNOT assume fathers have the same covid results as the mother, any more than you can assume that fathers and mothers are husband and wife. It has been taking DAYS to get tests for patients to confirm their status in some hospitals. DAYS.
If the father is not a patient, the hospital CANNOT force him to stay in the room for a long labor. Does this mean an unmasked, possibly uninfected, non-patient should be exposed in a hospital with confirmed covid cases? Or should nurses and other medical staff have to give up PPE for a visitor, when they don’t have enough for themselves?
What is the solution here? Ask the fathers to sign a waiver because they will likely be exposed to a pandemic virus in the hospital, and maybe become a patient himself in two weeks? Or to let someone who may have the coronavirus sit in the same lounges, cafeterias or hallways as uninfected persons? Staff aren’t walking into the hospital in PPE. They’re getting on elevators, walking through corridors, etc. Isn’t it sensible to keep as many potential carriers OUT of the hospitals so that staff is only exposed to viral load from actual patients?
These are not normal times. Yes, my heart breaks for the laboring women and their partners. But perhaps we should assume that infectious disease doctors at some of the preeminent hospitals in the world know a thing or two about risk from infectious disease?
They’ve restricted it to one support person here, but I’m mentallly preparing to do it alone if I have to.
Even if they do allow the extra support person, there’s no telling if I’ll get sick. Or DH. Or our dd, or my mom who is planning on watching her. There’s a lot of variables going on atm.
I had to have an emergency csection, my daughter would have died and I could have as well.
Low risk for complications doesn’t mean there won’t be any
Homebirth isn’t for everyone
I’m currently 27 weeks pregnant and will be having a scheduled section, I worry that my husband won’t be able to be in the room during the delivery but we won’t know until we get closer
The only comfort that I have is that it will be scheduled, I will know the day she will be arriving (unless I go before) so I won’t have that unknown among the unknowns of what delivery would be like and who could be there
This is just awful all around and my heart goes out to people who are due much sooner than I am