(Closed) Fathers, tradition and the walking down the aisle thing.

posted 10 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
5708 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I can’t relate, but I have heard of bride’s asking both father and step father to walk her down. Unfortunately, this usually doesn’t work as one feels more entitled than the other.

In that case, I would opt to either walk down yourself or have your brother walk you down. You don’t need to stay with tradition here or anything. It is who is close to you in your life.

Post # 4
1289 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I have seen a few people on here mention this way, where you have one of your fathers to walk you down the aisle, to be met by the other father who gives your hand to the groom.  But I think at the end it is what you feel most comfortable with.

Post # 5
709 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Do what YOU want.  If you prefer your step dad, do that.  It’s about YOU.  If you want to go by yourself, do that.  If you want to walk down with your mom, do that.  There’s no rule that it has to be a man.  Heck, you could even walk down the aisle with your Fiance.  That’s what we’re doing, and people on these boards that have done it rave about it.

Post # 6
499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

You could always opt to walk down the aisle alone or with your brother to prevent offending anyone. Sounds like your brother was always there for you.

Post # 7
5 posts
  • Wedding: September 2012

My parents divorced when I was 2, and my mom remarried when I was 5. My dad wasn’t always there for me when I was a kid, so I was basically raised by my step father. I always had a good relationship with my dad, but my stepdad was my soccer coach, the one who went to parent teacher interviews, fought with me, drove me places, etc. In my adult years, my dad has grown up alot, and we’re much closer than we have ever been. 

I’ve decided that I can’t choose between them, and I won’t. I want both of my dads to walk me down the aisle. I figure, if one of them has a problem with this (which they won’t), he can just be one of the guests. I’m not worried about offending anyone, though. I also don’t think it’ll surprise anyone.  

Have you thought about asking your mom to walk you down the aisle? Or do you have a grandfather you’re close too. Forget about tradition and what other people will think, and do what feels right for you!

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