(Closed) Faux-pas? – Thank You note from both

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I did that.  I was writing the letter so I felt I should sign it, whenever my husband wrote one he did the same.  Ultimately, it’s really up to you to do what feels best.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Hahahaha!  I didn’t care!  I wrote all of the thank you cards from the plural first person (we).  I even laughed in the face of superstition and signed all the shower thank you’s from "The Newlyweds!"  I say do whatever feels comfortable to you, and nobody will notice.  Unless your aunt is Emily Post.  🙂 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’ve actually never heard of that but I can tell you that I definitely wouldn’t care if I got a thank you with both names on it. I’ve actually gotten thank-you’s sent that way and never gave it a thought. Go for it….nothing has to be traditional anymore.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

That doesn’t sound right to me. The gift is supposed to be for both of you…if only one person signs it does that mean that the other person has to write another one? I think you should just sign both your names. That is what I have always done/seen done.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union

I read that on Crane’s guide to writing thank you’s as well. Not entirely sure how I feel about it, but it is apparently part of etiquette canon.

I think most people are unaware of this. This is one of those things where I doubt the etiquette really matters..

Post # 8
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I just don’t believe that. THe gift is for both of us, so we either both sign our names, but for some of them my Fiance is out of town, so I signed his name for him.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

I feel the opposite. If I were giving a gift, I’d rather receive a "thank you" from both rather than just one person. So we signed the "thank you" cards with both names!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2009

For my shower gifts, I just signed my name but said "we were grateful for the gift." In our wedding thank yous, I’m writing them and signing both our names. Screw EP!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

For our shower thank yous, I signed only my name and wrote in the first person singular. For our wedding thank yous, I signed both our names and wrote in the first person plural ("we"). As long as you send a thank-you note, I think you’re in the clear 🙂

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2008

I did the same thing as Chelseamorning – shower thank you’s went out from me, and the wedding thank you’s all had both names on them.

Post # 13
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Helper bee

Yup!  I did the shower thank you’s just from me but the wedding notes I am signing from both. I feel that all thank you’s for wedding presents should come from both of us but especially on gifts from people on his guest list whom I haven’t met yet – I would feel wierd signing without him. 

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

That sounds like an odd(er) rule than most… I’d want to see both names on the thank-you if I gave a gift to two people. I also expect we’ll be signing both names on ours when the time comes.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I think that is technically proper etiquette. But I highly doubt anyone will be offended either way. I think you shoudl write it whatever way makes you feel most sincere and comfortable.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

I like signing both names!

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