(Closed) faux paus to not serve alcohol?

posted 9 years ago in Food
  • poll: Is alcohol a MUST for a wedding reception?
    Dry Receptions are LAME : (11 votes)
    16 %
    Signature drinks as a minimum : (3 votes)
    4 %
    Champagne Toast as a minimum : (4 votes)
    6 %
    Morning Receptions can be dry but evening should have a bar : (9 votes)
    13 %
    A dry reception is perfectly acceptable : (18 votes)
    26 %
    Its the couple's preference, it really doesn't matter : (24 votes)
    35 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    Well too bad what the bridal magazines say – do what is best for you! Our simple reception will be dry! My fiance has been a member of AA and NA for 15 years and has not had an alcoholic drink or drugs of any time for all of those 15 years and I do not drink alcohol (I lack an enzyme needed to process it and I react to alcohol the same as food poisoning) and many of our guests do not drink. We are serving an non-alcoholic punch and having a "coffee bar".

    Post # 4
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    If you want to offer some kind of alcohol, why not offer mimosas? If it’s early most people won’t be keen on drinking anyways. Then it’s just champagne and oj and you can be a *little* festive but not too much since it’s champagne, right? If you’re taking half of your guests into consideration, that’s an alternative to the other half’s preferences. And nobody in their right mind gets tanked at 11 in the morning, especially off OJ and champagne. If they know it’s dry you might have to be concerned about people bringing their own and spiking their drinks, FYI. 

    If not, it’s ok to do a dry reception. I never would, but that’s just me–I’d do something small. I love flirty girly morning drinks, even if they have barely any in them. champagne is a good mixer, as is a splash of sparkling wine because it’s soooo minimal. if not, do sparkling cider instead! I do love the idea of a coffee bar. Why don’t you rent a cappuccino machine or something like that? I LOVE fancy coffees. If you have something awesome to offer in replacement of alcohol, you don’t come across as being cheap, but chic! A coffee bar is SO cool! You can do biscotti, too

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    It’s definitely not a faux paus to NOT serve alcohol. A reception should always reflect the newlywed couple. So, if having alcohol at your event doesn’t seem fitting…definitely no need to stress over including it! =)

    I’ve had a blast at both wet and dry weddings….no need to fear about your guests having a good time. There are many other ways to spice up your reception.

    Post # 6
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    2640 posts
    Sugar bee

    I didn’t answer the poll because I didn’t think my answer fit with any of the options.  I just answered a post yesterday discussing cash and open bars, etc.  Basically I don’t typically support the cash bar, but if it’s a money thing, I would at least like the option of have drinks (and have to pay for them) rather than skip alcohol altogether.  However, I do think there are exceptions.

    If you have religious beliefs, or a situation such as the groom has an alcohol problem, I think it’s reasonable to not serve alcohol. (I don’t know if I’d skip alcohol if an random guest had alcoholism.  But the groom shouldn’t feel uncomfortable at his own wedding.)  It sounds like Fi’s mom doesn’t think this is a big deal for her side.  It’s just Fi’s friends.  Sorry, they’ll just have to deal.  You can’t offend your family and betray your religious beliefs just because Fi’s friends want to have some booze.  If it helps your Fi to save face, let him blame your religious beliefs for not having any alcohol.

    And honestly, wise move having your reception early.  I don’t think it’s as necessary to serve alcohol during the day as night.  if it doesn’t offend you, maybe you and your Fi can have an after reception party, with his friends, at abar or restaurant, where everyone can drink.  Surely they can wait until then.

    Post # 7
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    773 posts
    Busy bee

    I had alcohol at my wedding, daytime, beer and wine- and champagne toast- only (gasp! i’m a terrible hostess according to some!), and there were no incidents.  I doubt that alcohol would make any of your guests go wild.  I offered alcohol because my fiance’s family are BIG drinkers.  If you feel like most of your guests wouldn’t participate in drinking alcohol, you’re certainly under no obligation to offer it!  It’s all about being a good hostess to your guests.  If alcohol is going to make them uncomfortable, don’t include it.  Why not offer a fun nonalcoholic signature drink that works in your theme?  The drinkers won’t even miss the alcohol.

    Post # 9
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    2640 posts
    Sugar bee

    galandrien, that sounds like the perfect set up.  And in December the coffee and hot chocolate station for your formal reception sound fantastic.  You can’t go wrong.

    Post # 10
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    665 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

     I come from a family of drinkers… not alcoholics, but we drink… and any kind of party w/o drinks is not a party. His side too…  

    I feel the reception is all about the guests… a reflection of the couple, yes, but it’s about them. So, to me alcohol is a must and receptions w/o at least the avalibility is lame. If someone wants to drink, then it should be made avalible to them… just b/c there is alcohol… doesn’t mean your guests have to drink it… maybe no one would, but it was at least an option. I like the idea of some daytime signiture drink.

    Post # 11
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    112 posts
    Blushing bee

    Your idea of doing cordials in hot drinks and champagne is great. My sister had a brunch reception and offered a full open bar, but not that many people took advantage of it. 

    Post # 12
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I love your compromise. Offering a cordial is NOT the same as offering vodka shots and martinis.

    The only time I know people drink heavy that early is a) st patty’s day and b) on the lake/vacation/vegas/etc. Not a wedding

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I want to have a dry reception, and it will probably be evening time. We don’t drink, and I don’t want to "force my beliefs" on anyone either, but in that same respect, no one should force their beliefs on me!  So, I think its fine.  And I love the coffee/hot chocolate bar idea!

    Post # 14
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    92 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    We’re doing a dry reception, mainly to save $$$ but also to respect his family. I don’t think its lame at all! It is what you make it. As long as you have a great DJ or awesome iPod set up…you’ll be good! For one of my friend’s upcoming weddings, she’s having it in the afternoon and having a lemonade bar with all different flavors. How cute is that?!

    Post # 15
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    984 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I think the cordials and champagne option is a great idea, like another bee said, many people may try to sneak in booze otherwise and that might end badly. I love the idea of a coffee/hot chocolate bar!

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2013

    Personally, as somebody who doesn’t drink (much), I wouldn’t really notice it. =) There was an open bar at the last wedding I went to, and I didn’t touch it.

    Besides, it’s BRUNCH. Do people really need booze at BRUNCH?! 

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