Post # 1
Hi Hive, I really need everyone’s advice on how to handle a sticky situation. My parents had planned on giving out cookies as our wedding favors. My fiance and I agree that this is best, as most people don’t use favors unless they are edible. Well his mother decided that cookies weren’t good enough and wants me to ask my parents what the final head count is so she can buy another favor to give out. I can’t do this, as my parents would be incredibly offended. How do I tell her that this is rude and offensive to my parents without causing a big stir? I thought about suggesting she contribute out of town bags but I don’t know how that will go over either. Ahh what should I do!
Post # 3
Can you just say thanks, but you’re all set on favors and are excited about your current plan? We’ve done that on a lot of things—but whether it works or not really depends on personalities. I’ve found it works best when you can redirect, though (“it would be really great if you could help with xxx, though!”)
And I agree, cookies or other edibles are the way to go for favors—I can count on one hand the favors I actually use beyond that, and I always feel guilty finally throwing things out that aren’t useful.
Post # 4
I can totally see why you’d be offended by that. Boy…
I agree with oakster, just say thanks but we’re set. and cut it off, perhaps. and i think cookies are a great idea. i keep hearing that for weddings edible favors are the best. people throw away other favors. i’ve heard that guests really appreciate a snack to take home. 🙂
so your favor is good enough!! 🙂