Post # 1
So, recently Fiance & I changed our minds about the party favors. We decided rather than buy something (or waste an inordinate amount of time and sanity on the candy boxes I’d planned to make that no longer fit our theme anyway), we would make a donation to something on kiva.org and tell our guests what we funded in a ‘thank you’ letter.
Which was all good, until I decided that I wanted to make chocolate chip cookies for people to take on their way out the door – like a snack for the road (or for on the way to the after party). I figured making them won’t be a big deal the week of, and I’d put them in little glassine bags stamped with our monogram (heat-set archive ink should work).
Do you think both is too much?
Post # 3
@atalante: I like the idea, but only do it if you won’t go nuts.
Post # 4
Love both your ideas!
Mom and I made Fudge the night before and I purchased frosted boxes from Ebay. Everyone RAVED about it! So glad we did it
I too was worried I’d be overwhelmed in the days leading up to the “big day” but it went perfectly!
Post # 5
Both are great ideas.
Donations to charities (LOVE and SUPPORT KIVA), as great as they are, are not a favor, nor a substitute for a favor, however. If couples don’t want to have a favor , don’t have a favor. If couples want to give a donation, just do it. They don’t need to tell their guests about it. It really has nothing to do with them. We don’t send out notices announcing our charitable donations the rest of the year.
Post # 6
@julies1949: I didn’t really think of it that way. I mean, that’s not the extent of our charitable giving. It was more of a “In honor of our family and friends, in lieu of a favor, we’re supporting _____.”
Fiance had done something similar a while ago for a group of friends over the holidays, and that particular group has gotten a kick out of seeing where the money has gone (since KIVA funds can be channeled into different projects if the original pays them back).
But, is your point that maybe that will offend people?
Post # 7
@atalante: sorry, no, that is not the point. The point is that wedding favors are entirely optional.
If we choose not to have one(which I am totally in favor of,by the way. most are a complete waste of time and money), simply don’t have one. You don’t need to explain your decision to your guests.
If we choose to make a donation, then announce it to our guests, it’s like we are saying”Aren’t we great? We have given this much money to this charity.”
From the guests’ point of view, the donation you made has nothing to do with them.
If you announce the donation as “in lieu of a favor” then have the cookies as favors, no matter what you call them, it seems a bit gratuitous to me.
Post # 8
@julies1949: And if I strike “In lieu of favor”?
I mean, I get what you’re saying.. and maybe I’m being subconsciously gratuitous? It just strikes me as a bit cynical.
But it is something I didn’t think of. I’ll bring the point up to Fiance,