Post # 62
@Songstress_7: I don’t think giving jewelry for the day of is a bad idea, if it fits your vision of the bridal party ‘look’! But I would just stick to something very simple and rewearable (like pearls, as others have mentioned) or chosen personally for each girl (like a monogram or simple charm)…if it’s something really blingy or in a color to match the wedding, I’m not sure it ‘counts.’ You sound like you’re putting lots of thought into it, though, so I’m sure it’ll be something your girls appreciate!
Post # 63
Eek I’m posting too much but I just thought of something else I know wedding parties of both genders have liked receiving – tote bags! You can go cheap(er) or fancy, but everyone needs a carry-all. I really love my big ol’ LL Bean canvas boat toat (~$30-$60 with monogram), but for the preppy, there’s Vera Bradley ($40-$60), and for the budget-minded, Zappos had some funky beach-print totes by surf brands like Roxy on sale this week for less than $30! Fiance has a monogrammed LL Bean duffel bag he received when he was a groomsman and uses it ALL the time.
Post # 64
@Songstress_7: I think the larger distinction to make here is that a lot of people feel that something you are requiring your bridesmaids to wear for your wedding day is not a gift and something that is directly wedding-related is probably not that great either (monogrammed clothing, personalized hangers).
I think the picture frame idea is nice as long as you actually follow up on it if you’re planning to put in a wedding photo!!
If you are requiring them to get hair or makeup done, you need to pay for it and it’s not a gift. I think even if you don’t require them to, it’s kind of hard to call it a gift to pay for it because it’s for your wedding! I think the same for their dresses.
The idea of the gift is to thank them for being there for you. I don’t think it should be considered payback for whatever the spent for your wedding.
Post # 65
@MmeVT: Thanks 🙂 I’ll definitely take that into account when trying to pick something out!
Post # 66
@Songstress_7: Don’t feel nervous. The boards tend to err toward the extravagent. If I gave me girls Coach purses they would look at me like I was insane. My cousin walks to/from work & the gym so she only uses backpacks. My sister is a thrift store queen. My best friend as a doctorate and still opts for a Hello Kitty tote bag every day. My last Bridesmaid or Best Man is a downhome texan girl who works at a low income high school- she would have NO PLACE to carry something that expensive. I had a friend give me a Dooney & Burk purse for Christmas. It was the exact size & shape as a purse I bought at Payless for $10. Guess which one I use more? Hint: I refuse to wear a purse that costs more than the amount of cash I usually carry around! 😛 She TOTALLY shouldn’t have spent that much.
Post # 67
i just asked someone this question and she said that more practical gifts are her favorite. she said she was given a scarf as a gift and she wears it all the time and she received it over 2 years ago.
i’m providing jewelry (NOT HANDMADE!! I was given this before and hated it) but NOT as a gift. it’s just their jewelry to wear. that’s it.
Post # 69
I’ve only been in one wedding and I got some cheap jewelry from Kohl’s. Didn’t like. Never wore again.
For my bridemaids I am giving them:
- A clutch purse that is silver (able to be worn at the wedding and beyond)
- Pearl Earrings
- Pearl Bracelet
- Burt’s Bees Chapstick
- $5 Starbucks gift card
- Small Altoid’s Mints
- Wedding day itinerary
- A personal Thank You card with a letter for each bridesmaid
- *Everything is inside the clutch which is wrapped in lace and has handmade gift tags with their initial in a sparkle letter
I know it’s not a lot of personal items – but I know they will appreciate it!
I also bought my maid of honor the same gift as the others, along with Michael Kors Earrings, and two Lily Pulitzer Bangles. =)
Can’t wait until the big day!! 12 days away!! =)
Post # 70
I don’t think a gift needs to be expensive to be nice. I am in the camp of nothing related to the wedding counts as a gift though. I personally don’t think hoodies or anything that says bridesmaids would be a gift I would like or ever use again. The same goes for jewlery to wear the day of.
Post # 72
I dont know what people mean when they keep saying i wouldnt consider X,Y, & Z gifts?
I didnt think the bride was required to giv gifts.. all she really SHOULD do is say a very heartfelt thank you.. but if she gets her BMs any token of her gartiude they should accept it graciously… you didnt have to be a bridesmaid and when you said yes you would, you should hav informed the bride of all of your requiremnts of a extravagant gifts and provided her with a list of things you would not accept…
Post # 73
@Kandiss16: I think people mean that something given by the bride that MUST be worn/used/photographed isn’t a gift, because it’s not being given as a token of appreciation or affection. It’s being given because it matches the bride’s aesthetic, not the recipients’. If you know your girls would love, say, a pink monogrammed robe and have dropped hints to that effect, then awesome! It’s a gift! If you’re giving them pink monogrammed robes because YOU want pictures of you and your girls in them, then that’s about you, and not about how highly you think of your attendants. Similarly, earrings she is required to wear for the wedding = not really a gift. Earrings you pick out because you know she’ll love them = definitely a gift.
Post # 74
Wow, things are different in America! I don’t know what’s the norm here in NZ as I’ve never been involved in anyone elses wedding, but If I got nothing from a friend I was a bridesmaid except a heart felt thank you, I wouldn’t feel annoyed, hurt or put out. Money spent does not equal how much you’re valued as a friend.
Post # 75
@loveandapitbull: Thanks, that is good to hear! And I saw your post about the earrings – that is why I am always too scared to buy earrings for my friends because I’m terrible and always get confused about who has pierced ears and who doesn’t!