Post # 1
Hi Bees! I have been living with my SO for a year now, and it has truly been wonderful. One contributing factor to this happiness is some of the routine we have fallen into we. I’ve heard some people say routine is boring, but for me, it’s comforting.
Every morning I make him fresh iced coffee, and then we sit on the couch and talk for about 30 minutes before he has to leave for work. We are both computer programmers, so sometimes it is work related, or about the news, or just trivial stuff.
Every night, before bed, I roll onto his side of the bed, and we snuggle. This happens every night, without fail. I put my head on his chest, he strokes my back, and after about 3 minutes, I am ready to pass out. I seem to sleep better than I ever have before.
There is nothing “special” about these actions, but they have truly enhanced my life, and I can’t imagine that time without him now. Do you and your SO have any routines/habits/rituals that you can’t do without?
Post # 2
Fellow programmer here! (sorry, I get excited when I find out another woman is a programmer, since I work with all men!)
My Fiance has to be at work an hour earlier than me, so I wake up with him and make him a shake for breakfast every morning, and put some leftovers together for his lunch or make a sandwich or something for him to take.
We also have a few minutes of cuddling pretty much every night once we get in bed. He always makes fun of me because I end up moving as soon as he’s comfortable (normally after 5 min or less)- it takes me forever to get situated.
We also have a weird thing that’s turned into a ritual – when I’m making dinner and I make a salad, I use an apple peeler to shave off thin slices of carrot rather than cutting it up (he likes it better that way), and once I get to where the carrot is too thin to shave off anymore, I take the remainder of the carrot and give it to him. He now expects it so much that he knows what I’m coming in the living room for, and he just opens his mouth. Haha. We are weirdos.
Post # 3
yes, there definitely aren’t many women in the field! Luckily, I haven’t experienced any issues. I encountered a lot more misogyny when I was waitressing.
I love the carrot thing! It’s these little quirks that make each relationship special.
Post # 4
Oh my goodness I love reading these! I think it’s the little things in life that really make lasting memories.
Some of our rituals:
Every Tuesday and Sunday night we go to the gym together. We call them “Gym Date Night”. Haha, soooo romantic huh? But we are both passionate about it and it’s fun to be there together even if we aren’t lifting together.
Every Friday we go to the store and get our grocery shopping done late night, and then home to binge watch some Netflix. It’s my favorite part of the week!
Almost every day the three of us (Fiance, Me, our cat/child) do what we call “floor time”. We all just lay on the floor in the middle of the living room together. We just lay there and talk, pet Davenport (cat), laugh, relax. I love floor time hehe.
Post # 5
Whoever brushes their teeth first, also applies toothpaste to the other persons brush in preparation for them. Morning and night.
Post # 6
3rd programmer chiming in! 🙂 (this is nuts, btw.)
We kiss before leaving the apartment every single morning, often as a wakeup 🙂
Also evening snuggles.
On Sunday we curl up, picnic lunch (though usually just on the balcony; Ireland is rainy), and then do our own things on chairs beside one another whistling or beeping every so often because we have nothing to say but want to communicate 🙂
Post # 7
Kiss and hug before work/sleep everyday. I feel off if we miss it!
Post # 8
We have a whole lexicon of sounds for “I’ve got nothing to say but want to communicate.” Often this will turn into a whole conversation of random sounds. Someday this will happen in public accidentally and it will be rather embarrassing…
Post # 9
When I think about it, we have a lot.
I drive him into work most days. Well, he drives then I take the drivers seat when we get to his work. So we kiss outside the car and I take off. He sends me a text (usually kiss emojis or some nonsense) around the time I should be parking after driving to my destination. When he gets home we eat together and then usually watch tv. He always lays down on the couch with his head/shoulders leaning on me and I rub his head.
On Sundays we always listen to NPR in the morning until after the Sunday Puzzler (which we try to figure out together) then get out of bed.
We also have several podcasts we listen to together, usually saving them for weekends when we have longer drives (to see my family or his). A couple of those are quiz shows and we shout out answers together.
Post # 10
Lately we enjoy racing each other in closing both sets of shades and turning on the light at night in our family room. Winning occurs when one of us accomplishes all those tasks, but usually the other person sneaks one of those things done.
Post # 11
My boyfriend and I have been living together for about two years now, just about our entire relationship. We always have to give each other a quick kiss before work (there’s been times that I’ve forgotten and have run back into the house to give him a kiss). We also take our dogs for a walk around the lake/pond thing by our condo every night.