Post # 1
I’ve thought about favors over and over. My original plan was to bake a boat load of homemade cookies, bag them up with a pretty bow and use that as favors. I’m afraid it will come across as super cheap or tacky. We are going kind of country with our wedding (mason jars, wildflowers, etc) but it’s also in a beautiful tent on a golf course so it’s no back-yard shindig. I HATE any of the little trinkets people give as favors or anything personalized with our names.. such a waste IMO. I LOVE the idea of small jars of jam or apple butter because it’s something I know a lot of people would actually use and like. I breifly looked up prices and it would cost over $1,000 just for the favors!
My questions are: Can we skip the favors without offending guests or looking cheap/selfish? Can I bake home made cookies and not look tacky? Do I suck it up and buy the jam or is $1,000 as ridiculous as I think it is? What’s an average cost of favors for 130 guests??
Post # 2
Oh hell no 1000 for favors! You don’t need any favors. Spend that money on something else. If you are going to do favors do something edible and small. Don’t pay 1000 bucks for favors. Half the time guest don’t take the favors and i don’t think people go around asking for them. Most people will tell you that they don’t even pay attention to them or don’t like them. Some people leave them and you are left with them.
i myself will not be doing favors. Food cake and beer is good enough for my guest.
Post # 3
You can totally skip the favors if you want.
You can also totally make homemade cookies, and everyone’s response will be OMNOMNOM.
Food favors are good, everyone likes them. No normal person will think it’s tacky.
Post # 4
Cookies can be nice, but sometimes they end up tasting bad. I’ve never recieved jam, but if i did, there’s always a chance I’ll completely forget I have it. A lot of people also leave favors there.
Post # 5
ChrissyMary9515: If you know how to make and can jam it’d be really neat to do it yourselves. If its a small wedding or you’re willinbg to put in allll that time and $$ but our wedding will be similar and we also might do flower seeds(likely sunflower). Or you could do roasted ones, boiled peanuts, or the cookies. 🙂 only weirdos will shake their head at a homemade cookie.haha
Post # 6
Etiquette is on your side. Favors are not required at all. In fact, Miss Manners goes as far as to say that weddings are not like children’s bday parties, where the guests need a consolation prize for not being the center of attention.
Post # 7
Favours are not required. I wouldn’t bother. We used the money we would’ve spent on favours and put it towards a maple taffy cart during cocktail hour.
Interestingly enough, the only favour I’ve ever received that I remember liking is homemade jam by the bride and her mother, which they were known for. It was delicious. But it also didn’t cost them $1000 I’m sure.
Post # 8
Homemade cookies can never be a bad thing. Yum.
Post # 9
ChrissyMary9515: I knew nobody would care about favors, so I set a strict budget of around $200 for ours. We ended up doing southern pralines and I just put them in little gourmet bags with our monogram stamped on them. In the end, I think about 30 of the 120 guests actually took one home, and I regretted even spending $200 on them. I think unless you put them directly on the plate and they add to the tablescape, there really is no point.
Post # 10
weddingmaven: weddings are not like children’s bday parties, where the guests need a consolation prize for not being the center of attention.
This is hilarious! Haha. I’m definitely leaning towards no favors. I always thought they were pointless at any wedding I’ve gone to. But I’m pretty laid back and not up on the etiquette stuff. I wasn’t sure if our guests would be like “what… no favors? wow, they are so cheap. I’m giving them a nice wedding gift and I can’t even get a decorative bag of hershey kisses out of them?”. lol that’s why I need the bee’s!
whitums: I would have made sure to take mine if I were at your wedding! yummm. But you’re right, I wouldn’t want to make any favor part of the tablescape and if they are kept on a separate table in the corner of the room no one will remember to grab them after a night of dancing and drinking.
Post # 11
My husband came home from a wedding with a personalized, very light-weight gym bag. He’s physically disabled.
That was the same weding that had only 3 passed hors d’oeuvres, for the cocktail hour food, and my family was only offered one of them. Things like that just don’t make sense, to me …
Post # 12
my mother in law keeps telling me i need favors but i’m holding firm in that my photobooth is my favor. because it’s around 1000. u can totally use that money for something else that’s more important to you, like your honeymoon or photog / other part of your wedding budget.
Post # 13
Personalized koozies are a big wedding favor where I live. I have koozies from almost every wedding I’ve been to. Not sure if this is an idea you like, but it’s something your guests can keep and reuse. “The gift that keeps on giving”, if you will, and they aren’t usually expensive. I know you said you don’t want anything with your name on it, but maybe a funny saying or something that relates to you and your FI? It’s a functional gift and could be used over and over, even if you did decide to put your names on them. Plus, it will remind your guests of how much fun they had at your wedding! Just a thought! Best of luck with your decision!
Post # 14
catpeaches: That’s part of our problem. Our mothers are both very traditional and everytime we say we are doing something a little different, they go nuts lol. I’m sure they won’t be very happy about not having favors… oh well!
Post # 15
Favors aren’t necessary, but I still think they’re fun. I wouldn’t break the bank on them though. The cookies sound delicious and would be much appreciated by the guests.