(Closed) Favors are they a must? And if so what is a good wedding favor?

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Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015 - Redondo Beach Historic Library

I’ve never been to a wedding that didn’t have favors, but some were just candy or the photobooth pics and that was perfect! I hate feeling like I have to keep around other people’s wedding favors just sitting around the house…but my fiance is the opposite, he says we can’t get edible favors because people will feel guilty about eating them 🙁 

Post # 47
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

We did playing cards. Our guests seemed to like them. Kept them busy the entire time, since we didn’t have dancing or anything like that. We also had some games to play, separate from the cards that helped too. It was enjoyable 🙂

Post # 48
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Busy bee

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Dchalifoux2012:  candy bar! We are doing a candy bar that is not color coordinated and for 150 people it will end up being a little less then 300 for 10 types of candy and custom goodie bags. 

That was my favorite favor that ive gotten from a wedding! And we will be having it at ours. 

Our friend had made candles in an antique tea cup for her wedding. It was cute. Seems expensive though.lol

Post # 49
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2015 - City Winery New York, NY

We are doing indivdually boxed muffins from the same bakery making our wedding cake. They’ll be indvidually tagged with “Thank you from the bride and groom, enjoy a muffin tomorrow morning in your room.” Or something like that.

Our fave restaurant in the city gives muffins after dinner for you to have the next morning for breakfast and we’ve always loved that touch. 

Post # 50
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Busy bee

You don’t need them at all. All I know is anything edible is always a good favor but don’t do it if it’s not in your budget. We got these cute bride & groom favor boxes at the dollar store 10 pk for $1 and filled them with candy and had them at each place setting. Our theme was “Love is Sweet” so each table was named after a candy and that determined what kind was in each box. 

Post # 51
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I strongly believe that you need a favor.  Someone here mentioned doing a donation to your favorite charity, that’s also a great idea if you don’t want to phsyically give your guests something.  I’ve been to weddings where there is no favor and I definitely noticed and thought it was cheap and disrespectful to me as a guest who brought them a $50-$100 gift.

Yes, the day is supposed to be about you, but chances are many of your guests are taking the time to come to your wedding, maybe buy something nice to wear for it, and are bringing you a gift or have already brought you something to your shower.  They are your guests and should be thanked in some way. Favors are just the most traditional way.  But again, I think the charity idea is a great one.

If you’re not accepting wedding gifts or not having a shower, then favors become less important.  I would still at least stand up and thank your guests for being there.

Again, this is just my opinion.  I’ve been to weddings where they did have favors and I loved the favor and kept it.  I’ve been to weddings where they had favors and I forgot about them and left them there by accdent.  And I’ve been to weddings where this is no favor.  Just because some people’s favors aren’t very memorable and are left behind, doesn’t mean yours need to be.  I think if you’re worried about them being wasted, I would do something edible that they can eat while waiting for dinner or after dinner.

Post # 52
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

For my favors I selected three charities and let guests choose which charity they wanted us to donate to. After the reception we tallied everything up and donated accordingly. It was a big hit!

Post # 53
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Worker bee

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alibc:  I always thought wedding gifts had two purposes: 1) to help set up the married couple for their life together and 2) to ‘cover’ the cost of your meal at the wedding. Did the person who told me make this up? Gah, I’m so confused! Haha. 

Post # 54
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - Old Mill Boathouse

Not a must but we plan to have a cookie bar ala candy bar, with either a bunch of different cookies people can pack up and take or a ‘singular’ type of cookie and package them up ourselves with the recipie.  

 

I should add I will be baking all the cookie! 

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Post # 56
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

We wanted to give our guests a gift to show our appreciation of them sharing our day with us. We gave a homemade creole spice mixture in jars with a personalized label that we printed on mailing labels. 

We still hear how everyone loves the spice and put it in everything! 

I’m all for edible favors or a candy bar!

Post # 57
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Chocolate or some other treat no monogrammed stuff just edible stuff or flower seeds or tulip bulbs were awesome, got monogrammed beer cosys once and not only did we never use them we really didn’t want to use them because it was someone else’s name all over it

Post # 58
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Buzzing Beekeeper

alibc: couples thank their guests in two ways – by thanking them, with personalized handwritten notes. and by throwing the reception itself (with hopefully good food, drink, and entertainment). I don’t see how some mass-produced trinket adds to that. 

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MissAmour:   you are mostly correct – wedding gifts are intended to help a couple start their new life together but they do not need to “cover” the cost of the meal at the wedding. It should be something that the giver is comfortable giving. I never understood the “pay for your plate” theory – how would a guest even know what that is? Plus it’s totally arbitrary, I didn’t have an all-inclusive package for my wedding so the food and drink was really reasonable, (instead of $150/head for chicken picatta) but I had to pay separately for rentals and the venue. Should that be averaged out? What about the band? They provided amazing entertainment and it sure wasn’t cheap. I had friends keep track of who hadn’t given them gifts yet and I don’t see the point – it just makes you bitter. As long as you came and enjoyed the day with me I was happy and I was appreciative of any gift that was given and I won’t hold it against you if you didn’t give me one – I threw a party because I thought you all would enjoy it as much as I did. The 4 people that RSVPed and just didn’t show up with out any explanation (before or after the wedding) are the only ones I was peeved with since the cost of their food and drink was just a waste of money. 

Post # 59
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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MissAmour:  I’ve never heard of that, but I’m sure some take that into consideration!  I think a favor is just a really classy and simple way to tell your guests thank you for their support throughout the planning of the wedding and for being there to celebrate.  For us there is a lot of people coming from out of town and going out of their way to celebrate with us.  I’m sure it’s different for everyone, but for me, I just see a favor as a necessity…. whether that be a mini box of chocolate, a dessert bar, a photo booth, a little potted plant, or even donating to charity in their honor.  There’s so many unique things you can do now a days.

Post # 60
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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LilliV:  That very well may be your opinion.  But though our favors are mass produced, they have meaning behind them since they are honoring my Grandpa who passed away, and it’s something our guests can do while waiting to eat.  I feel it’s a sweet touch and that guest will appreciate that we expressed our appreciation for them in this way. 

Everyone: I don’t think I mentioned it before, but our favors are the wooden, triangle peg games you see at Cracker Barrel.  My extended family used to go on these huge trips to Gatlinburg and we would eat at Cracker Barrel and I’d always play this game with my Grandpa… along with my cousins.

Whatever you do to thank your guests for being there is obviously your choice and like I was telling someone else, there’s so many ways people go about this now-a-days.  There is no “wrong” way.  And if physical favors aren’t your thing and you throw the most awesome reception and think that’s enough, then that’s your decision!  I think as long as you make an effort to talk to everyone and thank them for coming, then that’s great!

Everyone has their own thoughts and ideas!  And we are all entitled to our own opinions.

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