Post # 1
I really don’t want to do favors at our wedding, but I’m wondering if the guests would care or not. We are having a black tie wedding, but I just can’t think of anything fun to do and I’d rather save the money for something else. I just don’t want people to say something like that we spent alll this money but didn’t buy favors ya know?
If it matters the last two family weddings I went to they both did favors and no one took them home. One was a flute with the wedding date on it and the other one was mints that tasted bad.
(If it matters, I will be doing oot bags and all of that)
Post # 3
No favors! You don’t want to, your family apparently doesn’t care about them, and you’re doing an Out of Town bag. Don’t beat your head against the wall just because its something other brides have done.
Post # 4
At the most recent wedding I was at, I didn’t receive a favor. I did receive and Out of Town bag, which I was not expecting and was really cute. I didn’t even realize it until about a week later that I hadn’t received a favor. No ones really going to put up a stink about no favor.
Post # 5
Anymore, it seems that favors aren’t always the norm or necessary. If your family doesn’t seem to be into them, then toss the idea and spend that money on the bar, or there are tons of ideas for candy, cookie, dessert bars. If anyone does ask about the favors, indicate to them that you thought guests would much more appreciate a few extra drinks or snacks than a favor they won’t want 😉
Post # 6
We actually did charity “Favors.” We donated to a private inner city school that takes inner city youth… It’s actually really cool, but anyways we saw this post on pintrest where this couple donated to charity… then got minicards – they are these little cards that look like mini bookmarks… they are on moo.com…. and just put on the back ” In leiu of traditional favors, we have donated to (list charity here) in honor of our wedding guests, thank you for sharing our day with us” or something like that… I think it’s a nice practical favor and it still shows your guests your’re thinking of them… and if they want to take one of the little cards they can, but don’t have to… and they were only like $20 for 100….. so you’re not out a super lot… the trick is deciding how much you want to donate.. but just a thought…. If you’re family doesn’t seem to mind, then I wouldn’t worry about it if you don’t want to 🙂
Post # 7
I have actually only been to 1 wedding that had favors and they had golf tees with their names on them. Something I would never use and the friends/family I went with wouldn’t use either. IMO it was a waste of their money. (I should maybe mention I live in smalltown Kansas so things are a little different here then say NYC lol).
Post # 8
Most weddings I’ve been to had edible wedding favors which usuallly never made it out the door! I’ve had homemade syrup which was very yummy. We got to take home a centerpiece from another wedding which was a nice glass vase with silk roses.
I like seeing the favors at weddings, but if you don’t want to have them, then I wouldn’t worry about it. I think your Out of Town bags are a pretty big gift in itself 🙂
Post # 9
The last wedding I went to didn’t do favors. they were paying for the entire thing themselves and i just dont think it was in their budget. The wedding before that, did have favors but they were just a couple bite size chocolate bars and most people ate them while waiting for their dinner. guess they were hungry. unless you have an idea that you really want to do, i wouldn’t feel that you have to do them.
Post # 10
I love getting favors 🙂 It’s not the REASON I go to the wedding, but it makes me feel that the couple is acknowledging that they are glad we came to their day. I did favors to thank our guests (we also wrote out thank you cards) and to further show some of our character (they were fortune cookies with cheesy love fortunes in them!)
Post # 11
I’m also having a formal wedding and am opting to not have favors. My mother was at a loss for words when I told her I was interested in spending $ on them.
I think favors are sometimes a generational thing. For instance, at the weddings I have attended we always end up continuing the party after the reception ends so no one feels like lugging favors to clubs/bars.
Post # 12
@LovelyLaura: oh that’s a really cute and lovely idea!
Post # 13
If you don’t want to do favors, don’t. I don’t think anyone will mind. If you do do them, go with something edible (that actually tastes good)
Post # 14
Im not giving out favors. They seem like a waste of money. Every wedding i have been to its always been chocolate or shot glasses… no use for either.
Post # 15
If you’re doing an Out of Town bag, then I’d say it’s fine because in a way, the Out of Town bag is the wedding favor. Definition of the wedding favor in my book, is something you give to the guests as a little present and thank you, so it counts.
I, am not doing an Out of Town, and instead chose to do nice wedding favors, but I am not doing both. (I’m reversed).
Post # 16
I think favors are a huge waste of money and something no one cares about. Skip them.