Post # 1
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Helper bee
I have been to my share of weddings and the favors are all the same something cheap that you don’t care about or some type of candy or seeds i never plant. even looking at what to buy it’s all the same to me, cheap little things you try to get the best deal on. I am having a pricy wedding but just thinking if I need to have favors. I doubt anyone will walk away thinking wow they didnt have any favors.
I don’t know what everyones take is on favors?
is it cheap or tacky to not have favors?
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
I’m actually thinking about not having favors either for the same reason… why waste money on something no one ever cares about anyway?
Post # 4
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Bumble Beekeeper
Favors are not mandatory; nor is it tacky or cheap to not have them. We are having favors because we want to have favors. Our favors include the following:
- Vanilla Sugar
- Vanilla Extract
- Old Fashioned Cracker Favors
- Candy Bar
Post # 5
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Sugar Beekeeper
I’m having a candy buffet and was thinking about putting small boxes [which are like the size of a ring box but deeper and made of thin cardboard] on the table with a little sign that says ‘Save Some for the Road’ the boxes r cheep and the candy bar kind of doubles as a favor if they want one… it’s an hour drive for everyone coming to the wedding and most people will leave between 11pm and 1 am so maybe candy for the drive would be cool? But like I said I’m not really having favors b/c people just toss them when they leave, this way they don’t have to make a box if they don’t want one…
Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper
We did not have favors and I dont think anyone noticed or cared. Honestly I would rather provide my guests a really delicious meal, free drinks and good entertainment than skimp on any of that just to put together some throwaway favor!
Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
I actually like, and look for favors at weddings. I think they’re a nice little touch. That being said, I wouldn’t think you were cheap to not do them, but I would miss them.
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
Personally, I never miss favors when they’re not there. One couple we know gave mini frames and most of us forgot to even take them home! They still have a big box full at their house. I think favors can be cute (I do love candy buffets), but for the most part, they’re not necessary.
Another couple we know just posted a card at the reception that said they made a donation in lieu of favors. I think that’s what we’re going to do. To me, it seems like a better use of our money because I’m sure we’d just be trying to save money on favors and they would not end up being things people really wanted.
Post # 9
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Wannabee
I think it all depends on the couple. A friend of mine and her husband both work in the same field and in lieu of favors they made a donation to a charity that has to do with their line of work. My fiance and I are having a wine-themed wedding, so we are giving wine bottle stoppers as a favor. They are very plain though, because we feel that most people won’t wind up using something that has our names written across them. If it wasn’t for our theme, however, we would be at a loss as to what to give as well.
Post # 10
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Worker bee
I agree with jamo8711. My Fiance and I both work for a non-profit organisation in SE Asia. We’ve chosen our wedding favours to promote a small business that supports people disabled by landmines and polio. I visited their work in Phnom Penh, Cambodia, and was really impressed. We’ll use the photo frames we’ve ordered from them as place-cards as well, and hopefully they’ll get taken home and used again! Even if they just get left behind, though, it’s still good knowing we’ve supported a worthy cause. (And I’ll probably recycle them anyway, heheh… my FI’s family lives on the other side of the world, and are organising a second reception for us!)
Post # 11
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Helper bee
I just started consdering doing a donation if I didnt do a favor. I just notice how at alot of weddings I have been in for friends alot of favors get left behind or are stuff that no one wants or will use so I didnt want to go out of my way to make or buy something that if it wasnt there no one would care…
Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
I don’t think they’re necessary. If there’s not something that you’re excited to give out, don’t bother.
Post # 13
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Bumble bee
Yea, I delegated the favors and they’re still a huge pain (I made the mistake of delegating to someone close to my Mom, who then proceeded to take over). I’m doing edibles and a donation to a charity. I don’t have to worry about it going to waste and I can take home anything that’s left behind for midnight snacks….
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