Post # 1
My (well, our) wedding is next March, 2013. So I have begun the obligatory task of seeking “the perfect” favor for our guests. We are using mason jars as decoration so I have thought of things that can be put into a mason jar (jams, honey, candles, etc). We are into local wines so I have looked at mini bottles of those. We are also into cooking and local companies so I have looked at mini bbq sauces, seasoning packets, etc.
In the end though I am not enamored of any of the favor ideas I have seen. I am also expecting about 150 guests which means there are no $10 favors in their futures.
So then I began to think about making a donation to a local (or national) cause, in lieu of giving out favors. Honestly it would probably be to either a local animal shelter or the Humane Society (I am such a sucker for those commercials!) And simply placing a card at each place setting to let people know. But even though I feel like a $3 or $4 gift might be considered “cheap” or “insignificant” in the scheme of things, I worry that people will see this move too as “tacky”.
Thoughts? Help? lol!
Post # 3
I don’t really like the charitable donation as a favor thing. I don’t think you need favors, so I feel like if there is something you feel inclined to give your guests, do that. If not, skip it. If you feel inclined to donate to the Humane Society (which I think is wonderful!), do that. There is no need to combine the two.
Post # 4
This topic has come up before and was hotly debated! I personally think that charity donations are awesome and I totally appreciate them. But I’d say that the majority opinion was that it can be difficult to pick a charity that all guests will agree with and people say that a donation is not really a “favor” by definition.
Post # 5
Also, even though I said I didn’t like the idea, I wouldn’t be remotely offended/upset or whatever if I went to a wedding that had this. I guess I would just be like “oh great, they donated to _____. Why did they feel the need to tell me?” But then again I don’t feel the need to have favors either so that might be why I approach it differently.
Post # 6
This is very common these days. I haven’t been to a wedding where there was a favor in years. They are all donations and many of these weddings were quite expensive.
They usually have an announcement on the table as well as the card table letting people know of the donation.
Post # 7
Favors aren’t required. Edible favors tend to go over better than some random trinket with your name and wedding date on it. As for the donations-in-lieu-of-favors, well that completely depends on your family/circle, and your taste. It seems like it might be a good idea to donate to a particular charity or organization, but keep in mind that some of these groups have practices or policies that can be controversial (i.e. a cancer research charity that supports animal testing might no go over all that well with your PETA pals or vegan family members). Also, when someone tells me they donated $xxx to whatever charity, it seems kind of, I dunno, like “oooh, look how awesome and philanthropic we are” which I KNOW isn’t the intent, it’s just how it comes across sometimes.
Post # 8
I like the donation to a charitable organization that has speacial meaning to you better than a dust collector!!!
Post # 9
I feel like it is a little show-offy. I think donations are absolutely wonderful, but I don’t like it when they have it posted everywhere. If you want to make a donation instead of favors do so, I just wouldn’t post it everywhere. I doubt anyone will mention anything about a favor missing and if they do you can tell them personally that you made a donation instead.
Post # 10
Donations are becoming more common. We did them posted a tasteful note on the gift table that we had donated to St. Jude.
Post # 11
We’re currently debating between truffles or a donation in memory of the people who couldn’t be there with us on our special day. Leaning more towards the donation for now.
Post # 12
We actually ended up having two different favors for each guest. One was an edible favor (a small bag of homemade oreo truffles which was inexpensive to make and put together) and then we had a card on each table stating that we had donated to the Michael J. Fox Parkinson’s Foundation for each guest. This was meaningful to us because my husband had recently lost his Grandfather due to Parkinson’s. It was a way for us to honor him and I know my husband’s family really appreciated it. The foundation actually ended up sending us these really nice cards for the tables, by the way so if you do choose to donate for your favors, definitely talk to the organization and see if they offer anything like that to put on yours.
Anyway, our guests really loved the charity donation and also enjoyed the edible favors so that could be a route you could take if you worry about people not liking the charitable donation (although I can’t say we heard any complaints from anyone about it personally). Good luck with whatever decision you make! 🙂
Post # 13
I am all for charitable donations, it should be a charity that is meaningful to your and your FI – its not necessary for every guest to feel the same way about it as you do. I feel that most guests do not care about the small $5-10 trinket that you spend hours/days picking out and they usually get left behind. Its better to put the money towards something that could help someone than towards a dust collector.
Post # 14
Wow… such debate! I really am opposed to doing anything with our name and wedding date on it. I frequent thrift stores and Goodwill and have seen too many “former wedding favors” on their shelves!
I honestly am not a huge fan of favors. The few weddings I have been to, the favors have been tacky (jordan almonds or m&m’s) and I just feel like it is not even worth the effort for that sort of thing (my humble opinion, not to offend anyone).
Post # 15
I’ve had 2 favors I’ve liked. One was a really nice wine key with their names on a tag that I could take off so I didn’t have someone else’s name/wedding date on my wine key (which I would have not taken home with me) and the other was a really good whoopie pie. Many food favors are meh and I hate tiny personalized crap in my house.
I love love love charitable donations made in honor of the guests. It keeps crap out of myhouse as a guest and it’s one less thing I have to fuss over as a bride. Really, why would I spend $200 on favors that no one will want when I could give it to the local animal shelter?
Post # 16
Have you tried looking into something like Truffles for a Cause (www.trufflesforacause.com)? It combines the donation with an edible favor, so your guests have something they can enjoy/take home but you’re also giving to charity.