(Closed) Favors vs. Charitable Donation

posted 8 years ago in Favors
Post # 17
7368 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I personally would rather a charity donation than kitchy favor. However, at work today this was the topic. My co-workers were really againist it. And to my surprise they didn’t think edible favors (which I always thought was ideal) should be considered favors. Who knew???? Then, one of them used an example of a spoon that they received at wedding was attractive, but because it wasn’t engraved it wasn’t a favor and they felt they should have just skipped giving them out.  However, this person really keeps all her favors and displays them so she’s passionate about favors. Where as I’m thinking, how great, because I’d much rather have something generic without the bride and grooms name/wedding date. But apparently that faux pas as well. I think this whole business of favors is one area of stress and annoyance that I wish would just diappear from bridal lists.

Ultimately you know your audience best, but keep in mind that you can’t please everyone. Someone no matter what you do, even with the best of intensions is going to have something negative to say.

Post # 18
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

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@BostonFall2012Bee:  This seems like the perfect compromise! Seriously, who doesn’t like truffles?!

Post # 19
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I agree that favors are not required, but I would also not be offended if someone made a donation and informed me that they did that in lieu of favors.


I’m easy to please! 😉

Post # 20
3182 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My mom hates truffles so much that when I reached for one one time she yelled out “TRUFFLE” like there was an emergency she was saving me from.  

 But she’s an anomaly, I think that idea sounds lovely. 

Post # 21
3374 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

idk I’m not a fan of donations…. I donate a lot of money on my own time. If you’re going to do a favor at least give it to me. I’m not offended by them. Sometimes they’re a good idea, like for the bride who’s mom died of breast cancer to donate to Komen in lieu of a favor.

Chocolate!!!!! I’ve never seen chocolate get left behind

Post # 22
2153 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Fiance and I NEVER touch favors at any wedding we’ve been to, we both think that the items are a total waste…we plan on donating $$ to probably the Lustgarten foundation (my grandmother died of pancreatic cancer), Autism Speaks, and maybe another organization that is meaningful to us. 

Post # 23
9129 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I like the idea of charitable donations.  Pick something very personal and that way even if people disagree with the charity they can understand why you would that one to donate to.  Oh I know it probably wouldn’t be an issue but make sure you donate under your own names or in honor of a particular person and not the names of the guests because that is usually where people get peeved since their name go on a list somewhere that they personally donated to that organization.

Post # 24
3828 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

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@BostonFall2012Bee:  Truffles for a cause is SUCH a great idea.

Post # 25
1043 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

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@BostonFall2012Bee:  That is an awesome find, thank you for sharing!


Post # 26
516 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

We did both.  My mom made cookies and placed in the outer package of the cookie was a card explaining that we made a donation to a cancer research foundation in the name of the family and friends of the new Mr. and Mrs. in honor of the grooms late father.  We did not specify an amount on the cards but would gladly share the amount if people asked, no one did.

Post # 27
6739 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’ve been to a few weddings who have done this.  All they do is give a certificate or tiny brochure that shows that a gift was made in your name (without saying how much) and what the cause is about.  I think it’s lovely.  Makes way more sense than getting some tacky piece of kitchen equipment I’ll never use or a pack of chocolates when there’s already a ton of dessert at the wedding.  Love the idea!

Post # 28
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

We are doing a little bit of both. I have little favor boxes that I am filling with Lindt chocolates in different flavors and then we are doing a $50 donation to the Epilepsy Foundation, a cause near and dear to our families. 

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