(Closed) Favour etiquette

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
Member
561 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

“How kind of you! If we decide to go with cupcakes as our favors, we’ll talk more about your wonderful offer.”

Then you go with chocolates, explaining your memories of the chocolatier from your parents’ wedding.

She kind of sounds like someone who’s perpetually offended, so…do your best to be kind, but don’t cater to it. 

Post # 4
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2224 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@annifer:  I’m seconding this suggestion.

Lol I followed your other post, it had me in stitches. I’m sorry for you LOL.

“I think I have a 5th sense. It’s like I have ESPN or something. My boobs can tell when it’s going to rain. Well, actually, more like when it IS raining.” I had to lol I’m sorry

Post # 5
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1059 posts
Bumble bee

@BridieBea:  LOL @ giraffes not being elephants!

@annifer:  +1. If she is super sensitive maybe you can get your mom on your side and say that your parents thought it would be nice for you to have the same thing they did.

Post # 6
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2654 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Omgbunnies:  You may be one of my favorite posters, ha!

OP I totally agree with @annifer: on this one. If she starts to get offended, kind of look down and get all sad looking, maybe even squeeze out a few tears, and talk about how special it would be to have that connection between your parents’ and your wedding. It was *so* hard to choose since YOU (SIL) are going to be my family, too, but it just means SOOOOO much to me, you know?

Seriously, even the most die hard drama llama can’t argue against a performance like that. 

Post # 7
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2224 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@HisMoon:  *beam!* lmao drama llama

OP: OH NO! I quoted the wrong girl. Let me rectify this:

I’m sorry that people are so jealous of me… but I can’t help it that I’m so popular.

Gretchen: That is so fetch! 
Regina: Gretchen, stop trying to make fetch happen! It’s not going to happen!

Post # 8
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1318 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@BridieBea:  Tell her that for sentimental reasons you were thinking of using your parents’ chocolate vendor. No one can argue with that!!

Post # 9
Member
1251 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

@BridieBea:  I’ve literally just started planning,

 

I thought you were getting married in a couple months according to your other post about this same girl? I’m confused.

 

Either way, use who you want. Don’t be rude, but be direct and let her know that you’ll be choosing someone else to deal with the favors.

Post # 10
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2654 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Omgbunnies:  Drama llama is definitely one of the best takeaways from WB! AND I LOVE MEAN GIRLS!

Post # 11
Member
1750 posts
Buzzing bee

@BridieBea:  What if she shows up with a tupperware dish full of dry cupcakes and sits one on each table!!! I am in tears laughing at you Cry She could not be that bad. LOLOLOL!!!!

Post # 12
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3126 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

@Omgbunnies:  my husband spent Thanksgiving trying to make fetch happen. I think he missed the amazingness of Mean Girls the first time he watched it (I have seen it a million times, of course). It may be time to sit him down for another viewing.

Post # 14
Member
714 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I agree with other posters.  Just really play up your appreciation for her offer to help you out, but also really play up the sentimental element of using the same chocolates as your parents…maybe even ask your mom if you can blame it on her. 

BTW- you are totally right on going with edible favors! 

Post # 16
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344 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Just tell her, I was thinking more like chocolate. She’s not supposed to decide what favors you will have. She can suggest but only you have the last word.

Post # 17
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3587 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

@BridieBea:  I love that you used the word “twee.”

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