Post # 17
I disabled my wall when I started telling the trusted few early on – just in case. Now I have an album of baby-related things on there but it’s only viewable for about a dozen people and those people only. I feel weird about having all my personal business on there, too. No one’s ever crossed the line, my friends & family are pretty respectful of that.
Post # 19
This is a pet peeve of mine, too. Mine is a higher-risk pregnancy, too (because of my age — I’m 38), and we didn’t even tell our immediate family members until after the 20-week anatomy scan. A few people have made remarks on Facebook, including my husband’s cousin, who congratulated both of us on our walls, as well as a couple of probably well-meaning people who made a pregnancy remark in response to one of my status updates. I just deleted them and emailed them to say we weren’t announcing the pregnancy on Facebook until our baby girl is safely in our arms.
Post # 20
We’re not TTC yet, but I wanted to mention that I had this problem during our wedding planning. DH’s aunt used to post some things on my wall that really should have been private messages. Most of them were asking kind of personal questions about the wedding or asking for details so she could plan our engagement party. This annoyed me a lot because a ton of people on fb were not invited to the wedding and especially not the engagement party, and yet all of that was out there for them to see.
Post # 21
I also shut down my facebook wall once people started figuring out something was up, I just don’t want someone slipping and saying anything before we are ready (especially since it is so early, and only our parents, and the people who have noticed how sick I am at work know). We are still deciding how public to make it as far as facebook goes once we announce it to everyone.
Post # 22
@ams12: I’m 36 weeks along and made the same decision as you. There is no “baby bump!” album, or a new status update every week about how close I am, or even mention that I MIGHT be having a baby. But the second I do post a status about, oh I don’t know… the weather… someone has to come back with some baby related comment. It drives me insane. I get that people are excited for us, but come on man!
Post # 23
This would drive me crazy too. Common sense isn’t very common.
Post # 25
I didn’t read all the comments so sorry if this is repetitive but just wanted to echo your complaints! I totally agree, we are open now with everyone- family friends etc- I’m 15w4d- but we wanted to keep it off fb at least until the anatomy scan… although I wasn’t really ever wanting to do a big announcement, maybe just a picture where I happen to be pregnant at a time when I’d post pictures anyway and those that notice great, if not, no biggie. But I posted something on my status just about missing my old life – having to do with work, not baby related at ALL- and a lot of people started asking if it was the drinking I missed. Um hi first of all that would be ridiculous if I was complaining about being pregnant because I missed drinking; and 2, didn’t you notice I haven’t posted anything on fb yet? So some comments I’ve deleted while less obvious ones I leave. Anyway that was a very long-winded way of saying YES this totally AGGRAVATES me as well and you are NOT alone!!! It really makes me tempted to de-friend like all my fb friends, haha.